body by youth, aging encouraged wisdom…
By Carrie • Oct 1st, 2009 • Category: NewsLook you guys——
all of u that r shocked & seemingly upset about my weight—–
I might be more upset than you are, (can’t tell sometimes—–obviously more of u r SHOCKED about my weight—–can’t say I’m USED to it, but hardly SHOCKED by now…..)
Contrary to appearances, I’m busting my bovine ass to lose weight to avoid some of this snarky chatter—but it looks as if I might as well have been eating carrot cake all over town…..
Amazing as this might sound, I BARELY eat a fucking thing, AND I exercise regularly, get acupuncture—-AND I take hundreds of these enormous, annoying vitamins……but it would appear that between being 5 foot ONE & 53 years old (in 3 weeks), I’m not going to be shedding a bunch of pounds anytime soon…..I suppose I could completely STARVE myself, but then I wouldn’t have the energy to do my show, be myself AND (most importantly, of course) defend myself on the Internet to those I’ve been upsetting with my increased presence……..
I hate going on these talk show excursions, cause everytime I do, the Internet fills up with what a fat act I’ve become……
I WOULD stop taking my mood medication, which might make me easier in the eyes in one way, but harder on the ears, in terms of having to decipher the deranged ravings of an unstable and/or unhinged mind….,
I know! Why not read what I write while looking at an old picture……
Then you’ll have the best of BOTH worlds——surf AND turf—–body by youth, aging encouraged wisdom…..
And yes, I actually DO have a stylist—–one with a sense of humor, Thank God
Don’t worry, I won’t try modeling any time soon….
May the force of my exasperation be with you…..
CF
Those naysayers can fuck off. You’re fabulous.
Eat well, exercise moderately, don’t worry about your weight.
You are one hot chick to me – body, mind & soul – more than I can say for the rest of them .. .. ..
Keep your head up girl – the ones that matter love you & fuck the rest …
YOU ARE FABULOUS!!!
Carrie, I just responded to your previous post. I just wanted to say that I believe you. I have battled with my weight since I was 9 years-old. I was put on thyroid medication when I was 16. Even then, my weight was uncontrollable. At the age of 29, my weight was at it’s “then” all-time high. I starved myself and worked-out 2 hours a day. I went from 213 to 165. For 5′3″, that was still pretty hefty, but I was okay with that. Then, at the age of 32, I ballooned to 273 pounds – TWO-HUNDRED AND SEVENTY-THREE POUNDS!!! After I tried everything to lose the weight, I finally had a band put on my stomach. Even with the band, I was still way above my goal weight. I’ve been on Weight Watcher’s for the past two months and I’ve only lost ten pounds! I started exercising this week and I’ve actually GAINED weight. It’s so depressing and so unfair. People who don’t have a weight problem just don’t understand how hard it is when everything you do to try to get healthy backfires in your face.
Screw them Carrie. You’re beautiful no matter what the scale says.
Hey Carrie, are you healthy? I think that should be your main focus, and if you don’t have the body you had at 23, who cares? If anyone else cares, to hell with them. I thought you were great on The View.
Fuck them and rock on. Love ya.
Oy…people are ridiculous. And I say it’s refreshing to see someone in Hollywood who still looks human. I’m tired of seeing all those corpses with inflated silicone parts.
LOL I see Mz Sizzle up there and I had the same thought process going on.
yeah, what sizzle said. fuck them, carrie – you’re awesome and beautiful just the way you are. i saw wishful drinking in boston early this year, and i was blown away. don’t google yourself, don’t read the hate. xo
Fuck ‘em. Carrie rocks, fullstop.
I can not imagine being so publicly scrutinized. Please don’t let it get to you, and for God’s sake, stay on the meds. From one “crazy” to another.
Screw them anyways Carrie. You’re perfect. I think people that talk about someone elses weight are clearly insecure with their own and like to take it out on other undeserving people.
In my opinion those sorts of people aren’t worth knowing, or taking any notice of anyway. I think they want you to rise to their insults and lash out, they obviously get a kick out of it.
You look fabulous and you are most definitely one of my favorite writers and actors. I think you’ve got some amazing talents and people should focus more on that rather than appearance. I mean did they expect you to look 20 forever?
Don’t take the bait, you’re amazing, and I would love to see you on broadway, but being from Ireland I don’t think I can make it. Good luck with your show.
Oh good grief. By now I thought it was a mark of distinction to be dissed by illiterates online. After all, you’ve already been two or three worthwhile people, pop culture wise, while most of us are still working on our first go-round. Excuse me now before I go all fanboy.
Carrie,
You’re a witty, intellectual barometer of celebrity trials and tribulations, so what do you think of Mackenzie Phillip’s and Roman Polanski’s goings-on? I think people would be interested — I certainly am. And you don’t look that fat; I saw you on Today with Matt Lauer, and you looked great. You’ll lose the weight on your own time, if you like. And as you so wittily put it above, it’s a question of eyes or ears, and ears are infinitely more important when you’re over fifty, because nobody looks all that great then, and the superficiality of the flesh is more apparent, anyway. Who wants to be slinky and stunning when one can be more rounded, in a nice way.
Carrie
Agreed! Your body isn’t a computer you can reprogram. Who are these assholes? Megan Fox trolling the internet? I say do your thing and be happy.
carrie – you still look great, you just dont look 19 anymore – are people really surprised by this fact?
kind of get where you’re coming from though – i am 26 and my 57yr old mum has a far better figure, can wear teenagers clothes and actually pull it off, and looks at least 10yrs younger than she is, so she loves telling me each time i see her how fat i am…. lovely!! not quite the same as having stuff written about you in the papers though…
but anyway, a – i wonder what all these people look like, clearly they all have perfect figures and perfect skin and perfect hair….
b – how many other people have had the same experiences with drugs (prescribed and otherwise) as you have and come out of it so well
c – you’re carrie fisher!! who cares if you put on some weight in the last 30 years – you’re still one of the funniest people on the planet, still a brilliant writer, and still putting on a sucessful show (which i still cant quite believe im coming to see!!!)
hope that you’re trying to lose weight because YOU want to, not just for these idiots who clearly have nothing better to do with their time than slag people off… and that you’re doing it healthily.
so while i know it’s only human nature to LET the bastards get you down, and there are alot of ‘the bastards’ out there… just remember that you are who you are….and who the hell are they?
xox
Every time I see one of those comments, I want to slap someone. Wtf? What gives them the right? And then websites post photos of you with your glitter on, and try to make a big deal out of it. I would assume, since glitter is a bitch to get off, it’s easier to leave it on between shows during the day. But they want to paint you as some weird chick with weird makeup. Fuck off. And even if it’s not because of your show, who cares? You are your own person. You looked damned fantastic on The View today. And I’m not just saying that because I adore you. The purple sweater looked awesome with your hair color. It’s obvious you wear what you like, and you have no issues doing so. Good for you.
I’m sorry all this bull gets to you. I do hope that the positive comments and love you receive make up for it in a tiny, tiny way. I know it’s easier to remember the awful sometimes. But there are so many of us who are so happy that you blog and tweet and share stuff with us, and love and see you for who you are. I can be having an awful day, but new blog or tweet, and you know, it’s not so bad anymore. Today was a bad work day, but I went home at lunch and watched The View, and now my day is better. May sound weird or pathetic, whatever. That’s what I get from you doing these things. Better than drugs, right?!
Once again I ramble. Sorry. I just get very worked up about this stuff. Maybe it’s the gardener in me, always wanting to make things better for people, even if I can’t!
xo,
Ericka
Sizzle is absolutely right — you look terrific. And amazing.
And your blog is great.
Hi Carrie;
I saw you on the View today.I noticed you look different than I remember you.I also want you to know most people,like me,are probably more amazed and inspired by you than concerned about your appearance.I haven’t been so inspired by anyone as you in my memory.I suppose it is because I can relate ,on many levels,to you,minus the happy ending-yet.I am sorry that people have prompted you to write this most recent blog post,but as a woman,once again,I relate.Some battles seem to never end.I am especially interested in reading Wishful Drinking,but I hope to read all your books.You would be the first celebrity whose books I cared to read.You are beautiful,Carrie,inside and out,and I mean it literally.You may have changed but you are still a lovely woman.Thank you for your bravery.
the people trashing you are probably 300 pounds, trapped in their bedrooms; waiting for richard simmons…
They can go fuck themselves – that is if they aren’t too tired from not eating. Maybe it has something to do with your IQ comment from the other day – their IQ relative to their weight…
I’ve really been enjoying your blog – always a breath of fresh air to read your work. You’re a fabulous writer.
As a 71-year-old, 4′9″-er, I confirm how difficult it is to keep weight off. But more importantly, who the f@#* (sorry, my age prevents the actual epithet, but the emotion is there) cares what your (or anyone else’s) weight is. You’re fabulous, funny, and talented. That’s all that counts to your fans.
I’m with Sizzle.
I saw you on the view( i’d like to smack sherri upside her dumb head and love it now that the wingnut is off having more little wingnuts) and my first thougth was..damn..she’s lost weight…so what ever your doing it’s working..im 65 have diabetes and had 5 back surgeris so im limited to what exercising i can do..but when i found out i was diabetic i said well, if im going to croak im not going to croak because i couldnt eat right..so i cut out potatoes, rice, pasta and bread for almost 2years..i was meaner than a republican without a expense account but I lost 60 pounds. so it can be done.its fecking hard to do but it can be done..what was hard was i hadn’t smoked in 30+ years, drank in almost 20 years and hadn’t had sex in over 20 years..so all i had left was blue bell ice cream and dublin dr pepper…when i had that taken from me i thought well, fuck…kill me now..but i did it…but if you see me smoking and drinking you know i just got laid.
Carrie, as long as you’re happy and healthy, that’s all that matters. Please don’t let the trolls get you down! The opinion of people whose lives are so empty that they feel compelled to criticize someone they don’t even know isn’t worth getting upset over. I’ll bet you are far more admired than vilified.
Don”t worry about it. You are doing what are doing. Saw you on the View.
From experience, I know those darn psychotropic meds trash your weight and any sexual desire.
I think that because I have pretty much followed your wisdom all of these years (thank you! thank you!), your appearance hadn’t really occurred to me. We’re three months apart in age and I know that in the past couple of years I have experienced morphings and shapeshiftings that were completely foreign unto me. I’m totally banking on this just being a phase of sorts or something. Something like an allergy. If I could just blame somebody else and move on . . .
If I don’t get a chance later, Happy Birthday. Have some of that carrot cake. I would. Or brownies — with coffee ice cream.
I have to admit even though this is a website im still completly star struck at the idea that you might actually read it. LMao always at your jokes. Have always been a fan of your work. Id like to tell you something in reply to your blog but i wouldnt dream of insulting you by offering wisdom of which you clearly do not need. Just letting you know there are still fans out there that enjoy you in any form……but for the record ou were smokin hot for freginn ever. You inspired a/ fantasy that will endure for years to come. Seriously who can say that…..i dont know of anyone that can boast that? WHO?
Carrie,
I think protecting your mental health and your wonderful personality are so much more important than how much you weigh.
Surround yourself with people who love and support you and forget the other negative idiots.
Those people who write about your weight obviously don’t have what it takes to write about real important issues of the world; so pity them. They’re pathetic. They’re like parasites sucking the life and joy out of people. Don’t let them do that to you. Your family needs you and so do your fans that love you dearly.
Sending positive energy your way.
If it’s a choice between taking your medication and losing weight…well there simply is no choice. You are twice as smart as most of your detractors and I’m sure twice as attractive as well.
Just do the healthy stuff you do and enjoy being the talented, beloved person you are.
By the way, advance Happy Birthday. Don’t guffaw too loud, but my E.F. fan club sent your parents a teddy bear for you (among millions, I’m certain) when you were born, directly to the Maple Dr. house. Yes, in those day, celebs acctually sent letters to fans with their home addresses engraved on the envelopes! At least your parents did. And we didn’t even try to accost them.
Best to you always.
First of all, I recently found this blog and am so glad I did. I’ve loved you since I saw you talking to R2 in the 70s and have no plans to stop loving you. I am so tired of the weight police. They’re everywhere and they are rude fuckers. I’m a 47 year old gay man who also doesn’t dress like a 12 year old girl anymore and believe me, I’ve become invisible (despite my girth) in my neck of the woods. To hell with the shallow people. You are so deep I drown willingly in your prose. I don’t give a shit what you weigh. I wish to god I could get to NYC to see your show.
For crying out loud…………our society is so fixated on weight! Just keep healthy and happy and don’t worry about what others think.
Besides………the weight thing is good fuel for future comedy……..
Carrie, you just keep being you. I saw your show last year in Boston, and you’re just such an awesomely funny broad that my lungs ached from laughing. The people who hide behind their Internets to bash you clearly have misplaced priorities, what with Dick Cheney still out there as alive and evil as ever.
Eff the Internets. Seriously. And y’know what? I’ve a friend from China who chose Carrie as her American name…all because of you, darling!
I understand how you feel, because I would feel the same way. But the only people who actually care about your weight are jackass, loser human beings. TMZ = inbred mosquito brains. Do you think professors sit around the TV and their computer commenting on your weight? I think not. Only dumb-ass losers do that–really. I know this for a fact. Though I do realize you live in LA. That’s a fiction in itself. Come to Oregon! We don’t give a shit here!
Love ya!
Sam
I don’t care what you look like. I think you’re amazing. I’m at a point in my life too where I’ve got to accept the inevitable. I’m 42. I’m never going to look 24 again. Big fucking deal. I thought i looked pretty decent after popping out 3 kids and no crow’s feet yet but I haven’t been “hit on” in over a year. This is a new phase of my life beginning. I miss getting flirted with but my kids always tell me “you look nice mom” when I make the effort and that is worth more to me than 10 guys giving me the “once over”. At least when a woman looks REAL she knows for sure the man she’s with loves her without a doubt i guess right? anyways, i haven’t seen sorority row yet but i think i will this weekend. (the ex i mentioned in a previous blog did some of the set painting) here in Shittsburgh. lol xxx ;p
Hi Carrie,
It has been a nice surprise to see you on the Today Show and The View. I thought you looked great on both shows. Out in the real world among “real” people, there is nothing wrong with the way you look. I think that it is sad that there are people with nothing better to do than criticize those who don’t fit the unrealistic standards generated by Hollywood. You should especially be given a break since you are by necessity on bipolar meds which cause weight gain, making weight loss MUCH harder. Your anonymous internet critics are just showing what ignorant jerks they really are. I would like to see any of them try to star in a Broadway play while dealing with bipolar and ECT. You accomplishments are an inspiration to so many of us. Don’t let a few ignorant losers with access to the internet get you down!
Love,
Robert P.
Carrie: you are your mothers daughter no mistaking that. People have loved Debbie Reynolds not because of her beauty but because of the sincere, loving and gracious individual she is. This my dear friend is what you are.. you have brought entertainment to the viewers, sincerity with a touch of humor. Youth, good looks fades with the ravages of time but what beauty we have within our inner self is the beauty that will last forever. I remember meeting your mom many years ago at a Zody’s store function and no matter how tired she wasy she always embraced her audience with her smile. I watched her movies, I read about all her hardships in life but she always dusted herself off and continued on. I am saying to you Carrie, don’t listen to negatives of others but dust yourself off, pick yourself up and continue to provide the audience with your wonderful wit and humor, writings and acting and always, embrace your audience with a smile. We would love to see you more in movies, etc. You are a beauty inside and out! May the good Lord bless you and give you strength and guidance in life.
Best Wishes
Heidi
Carrie,
You are BEAUTIFUL just the way you are. Please, no more explaining. Just be. You are a precious gift to us.
I think you are going in the wrong direction. Your Wishful Thinking show will eventually run it’s course. Then what? Here’s a suggestion. After listening to your Wishful Drinking audiobook, I realized that you have a great bluesy voice. Once I read Wishful Drinking, I could see that you can easily alter the words to a standard twelve-ban blues scheme. So there you have it!
1. Adapt Wishful Drinking to blues songs
2. Cut a record
3. Go on a “Wishful Drinking Blues” World Tour
Only problem: you have to gain an incredible amount of weight– at least 200 pounds- Blues Divas are not skinny gals like yourself. So forget the diet and exercise torment. These are your Blues Diva in training years.
In other words, Fuck everyone, enjoy yourself.
Online comments (not to mention those perpetrated by televised commentators) can be tasteless and hurtful — especially in our wonky culture, where appearance is valued so much more than substance. And it must be particularly hard for someone with your personal history as a renowned beauty. The face that launched a thousand X-wing fighters, so to speak.
As an author with publicity photos of myself at varying weights and ages out in the world, I have been on the receiving end of more than a few comments, some of which were less than kind (and everybody has a comment, as I’m sure you know); but as my audience is much smaller,the volume is thankfully far less. I can only imagine — with some horror — how it must feel to have your personal appearance considered public property on national television. (Which almost never happens to men, of course, but that’s another issue.)
But I don’t read your blog because you’re hot. (Although I must admit wishing I were you for a few years in the 70s, cinnamon buns and all. And I hope to be even one-fifteenth as fabulous in appearance when I cruise into my sixth decade.) I read your blog because I love your voice, and find you fascinating, funny, and thought-provoking. And occasionally shocking — in a good way.
Who you are goes far beyond your beautiful face and body. (Both of which, btw, are still beautiful; I looked up some recent images yesterday. You couldn’t be ugly if you tried.) I love your wry, utterly frank take on your world. Your honesty. And your bravery in putting yourself in the spotlight, even if at the moment you are not completely in line with our culture’s rather narrow standards of acceptable celebrity size. (In other words, you do not appear as if the last meal you ate was sometime in mid-August, and consisted of two celery sticks and a poached tilapia fillet.)
I hope you find peace with your body. But even more fervently, whether you do or you don’t, I hope you continue to stride fearlessly into the spotlight. You’re a beacon for the rest of us — in a world with far too many guiding lights.
And whatever you do, keep writing — I can’t help but keep reading. You’ve got this writer hooked!
Carrie,
All of your fans–and there are many of us–know how talented and hilarious you are, and how perfect and true your writing is…and we don’t give a damn what you look like. (Although you look far better at almost-53 than most of us ever have, at any age.) Please don’t let the snarky Internet comments get you down. You deserve so much better than this mercilessly critical scrutiny.
Thank you for keeping up with your blog…I really look forward to reading more from you. I’ve loved your writing ever since Postcards From the Edge. In college, my sister and I used to send each other postcards with quotes from the book–no greeting, no “how are you”–just random quotes: “She thought she was a wonderful driver, and she wished she could build a healthy self-esteem from that foundation. When it got down to the larger issues, though, she didn’t think believing in yourself as a driver meant that much.” Or: “New York in the summer is like a cough…it’s like the whole country came here and coughed.” Many, many thanks for all of the laughs you gave us. We can’t wait to see your show next month!
I love ya…enuff said…I have had trouble with keeping the weight off..but I am doing better now. Some of the newer medications are great for that. But what is important is how you feel and do you have the energy to do the things you want to do. I have seen the recent you and I think your just a bundle of fun(don’t take that the wrong way) and I don’t think its really necessary to be anything other than you. You just take care of your health..that is all that matters…
Shine on princess….
love and kisses
OMG, Carrie, let it go. You are beautiful. Why make yourself miserable? Try to not let the musings of internet geeks get to you. Stay on your meds and do what you need to do to make yourself happy.
I’ll be 51 on October 3rd and I am so obsessed with my weight that I end up eating more just thinking about it. I’m not obese, but even finding that I’ve put on 10 lbs can ruin my entire year. Do men feel this way? Not as far as I can tell. According to society, it’s fine if a man puts on a few pounds. It’s just a little beer weight he put on watching games with the guys. Even the sitcoms take us to a world where thin beautiful wives are a given, but the husbands aren’t given the same parameters. We see obese, gnarled and stubble faced would-be frat boys put forth as these women’s husbands of choice. Gag me! Why can’t people just leave others alone and accept who they are?
It probably doesn’t mean anything but I don’t care about your weight. I care that you are healthy because selfish me… I want to keep reading the funny things you write. People who care about your weight need to find something else to care about… like peace on Earth and good will towards everyone. But that’s probably not fun for them.
I always say, “What makes you think I want to be like you?!”
This either shuts them up or if they push it, allows me to then say, “I control my weight, can you control your personality?”
“Enormous, annoying vitamins.”
That is just so very perfectly put. As usual.
I’m rather tired of articles being up about you in the news. Seriously, why can’t they leave you alone? When is anyone going to be able to age in peace? I have to admit, I have a greater overall opinion of you now than I did back then.
Dear Carrie,
We all love you down here in Australia
Best Wishes
Love Jamie xxx
I have nothing original to add – my heart is with the ‘fuck those idiots, you’re beautiful’ sentiments.
So fuck those idiots, you’re beautiful.
Carrie,
I saw you on the Today show the other day, and honestly, I thought you looked great! Everything you say cracks me up. Your attitude towards so many of the events in your life has reminded me to not take myself to seriously either, and to laugh rather than cry. Thanks for being an encouragement to me and so many other people. Forget the naysayers and rock on! Hoping to make a trip to NY to see the show!
Love from Texas
Hi Carrie!
Oh Carrie, don’t give a shit about what those people say about you. And seriously, stop googling yourself. I’m not even famous and people talk about sometimes, aha.
I hate those fucktards they can all go to hell for making fun of someone’s weight. I don’t care that you’ve gained a few, just more of you to love…I thought you looked good the other day on The Today Show, a lot better than you did the last time you were on. Nobody expects you to slim down overnight, as long as you’re healthy (however you want to define it) that is all that matters, at least you’re out there doing something about it.
Carrie,
I really hope all the positive energy in the above comments can displace the snarky bullshit that floats around the ‘net.
I had the pleasure of seeing your show while we were in NYC on vacation. It was absolutely wonderful! You were extremely funny and amazingly brilliant! I also had the dubious honor of participating in part of your show with you (you know which part… check my blog) and I can definitely say, without a doubt, that you look wonderful! You made it my best vacation ever!!!
Much respect,
Bruce
PS I hope you don’t consider us part of your “merry band of stalkers”. Maybe your “merry band of followers”?
Carrie Fisher has a posse!
I’m 53 years old as of last February and last weighed in at 308 pounds. Didn’t realize I had diabetes until it was too late and beyond that, had injuries from the Army that prevented me from high impact exercise like running.
Made it all the way up to 380 since 1986 and now back down to 308 and intend to keep the weight headed downwards.
Carrie, I’m going to call you “Slim” and tell you to ignore those that remember you from the old days but haven’t looked in a mirror lately themselves.
My basic rule of thumb is this, particularly in regards to criticisms people throw my way:
“F— ‘em if the can’t take a joke; Joke ‘em if they can’t take an F— and F— ‘em double if they can’t take me!”
You can’t be “Princess Leia” forever other than in our hearts, minds and souls. At some point in time, everyone’s got to be themselves. Time marches on. I’m Grandpa Bear for the third time this year.
I loved you for Postcards from the Edge (movie), because it was such a surprise to learn that you were also ~ and more importantly ~ a writer. I loved you for going to both your Mother’s defense and Elizabeth Taylor’s defense due to unchivalrous comments by your father. In my opinion, you went to the Defense of more women than you know when you stood up for those two.
You look just fine to me. Be comfortable with whom you are. Those who would be critics have more to criticize than their targets of choice and opportunity.
There are millions whom are overweight in this country and around the World. There are millions more with black hearts, no kindness, no compassion and no love, nor abiity to give or receive the same.
I can lose weight. How do those with black hearts propose they fix themselves?
I pity them, not you or I. It’s because of you, I have another reason to rejoice.
Nice to be alive in the same day and age as Carrie…
you’re delicious and you look like a real woman! love it!!
xo
d
Hey Carrie-
Here’s a story for you: 20 years ago, I knew an obese eating disorder specialist who treated anorexic women. She was seriously obese. No joke!
She used to remind me of Mama Cass with the long brown hair, eccentric clothing and tiny spiked heels. I used to ask myself, “How the heck can this obese woman sit in a room, and run a eating disorder group for a bunch of frail women who are discussing their weight issues?”
I mean, here these women were having conversations about not wanting to eat in fear of becoming fat and here was this specialist living the fear. She was the nightmare all these thin women starved themselves for in order to avoid.
Amazing….but then it dawned on me that this specialist wasn’t the nightmare- she was the inspiration. You know why?
Because she liked herself-she was happy being who she was. That was her silent message as she sat there: It’s not about the weight, it’s about being comfortable in our own skin.
It may not be a helpful story, because she didn’t have websites or blogs talking about her weight-but my point was this:
You have to give yourself a break. You are inspiring to others because you can find the humor in painful situations. You are sending out a silent message through your Wishful Drinking performance and the books you have written.
“Having a sense of humor is the key to survival in life- it creates a reality that is bearable.”
It doesn’t mean you don’t hurt- it just means that finding the humor in our worst days is what helps us get through them, overcome them.
I just think you are doing amazing work out there without even realizing it. You are helping people who suffer from addiction, bipolar, or whatever their struggles are- through your words, sharing your own painful experiences with humor- you are allowing others to feel not only comfortable with their struggles, but finding the humor in them. And once they can find the humor- they can start healing- can start putting it past them.
“YOU” are doing this for many people out there!
And…NOT MANY people can say they’ve done that!
Making a difference in someone’s life?
When you think about it- That’s pretty powerful stuff -
So, though I can only imagine how hurtful the words people write, say or print about your weight- try and focus on the good you do- and quit reading those mean blogs, nasty websites- there are meaningless. (Easier said than done-I know….we can’t help but be curious on what others “think” of us)
We are our own worst critic- why we need a sidekick to be in our shadow reminding us of our downfalls is beyond me!
Hang in their Carrie- don’t let them get you down!!!
WTF is with all this public fascination with your weight …I don’t get it at all. F- Them… I came last Sunday and saw your afternoon show and laughed my ass off!!!!! You were wonderful!!!! Don’t let all this BS get into your head and steal your happiness on stage. They are all sad little people with nothing else to report on.
-patrice
You are an extremely special person. You have superb senses of humor and irony. I absolutely enjoyed reading your blog. I, too, have BP and have dealt with addiction (in my case, alcoholism) and I really enjoyed seeing you say all of the things I wish I could (and once in a while have). Maybe from now on I’ll just have my therapist read your blog to get her to understand what I’m feeling and experiencing. It might shock her a bit, but she probably needs it.
Carrie– personally, I vote for “brains before fawn”, and you’ve got brains in effing spades, that makes you hot regardless of what other say… as you’re you and I’m not a lesbian, take that with a grain of platonicism!
-j
Hi Carrie –
I caught the show (yet); haven’t seen any recent pics, and – here in Boston – haven’t read any disparaging words about your bod but as a, er… uh… maturing female myself – I can tell you that if YOU want to drop a few lbs, it can be done even with a ever decreasing metabolism but eating less is not the way to do it (when you consume fewer calories = you actually further slow your metabolism).
A couple of quick tips:
Check out ‘clean eating’ and try to choose most of what you do consume from those foods identified as ‘clean’.
Eat something ever 3 – 4 hours (never go longer than 4 hours without popping something into your mouth!), and try to include a protein source at virtually ALL meals and snacks (protein requires more calories in its digestion and eating more frequently also keeps the metabolism revved. Studies conclude that the same amount of calories – that’s the same amountof calories – consumed over the course of a single day burn more calories when broken into 6 or 7 mini meals versus the usual 3 big meals/1or 2 snack day.
Think weights more than cardio for effective weight loss/maintenance (check out the book: Lift like a Man, Look like a Goddess)
If You want to drop some fat, You can do it. But do it for you – not for a critical public – and, whatever you do, be happy. Good luck.
Carrie,
I’m not a Hollywood-phile, but when I saw your picture, I wanted to make a comment. While you were running around in Jabba’s skimpy slave suit, I was running around in the slim, brass-buttoned suit of the Military Academy. Over the years, we’ve ballooned. Still attractive under the fat, but still fat. After your current project runs its course, you might consider challenging your loving fans to a weight-off. It will be healthy, and who knows but it may be a new direction in your career. If Marie Osmand can melt it off so famously, you could as well, along with bunches of fans mirroring your success. You can then write a book, like The Princess Takes Off, or some such. Not only will you help yourself and others, but their weight loss will keep them alive much longer. You’ll have a generation of long-lived book-buyers for many years to come.
All the best,
George In Atlanta
Dear Carrie
We love you just the way you are…as the song goes. I am also vertically challenged….4ft 7 inches..and i totally know what you’re going through. Ignore all the negative media…they’re not worth thinking about. You’re a beautiful person both inside and out and we love you for being you.
Carrie, just saw your show at Studio 54 last night!!! Thank you thank you thank you! We had such a GREAT time! Laughed all night long! Even after the show we were still howling! ‘you’ll pee less’ and other such pearls of wisdom will keep me in stitches for a long time to come!
Thank You!
Dear Carrie, I loved you in Star Wars when I was eight years old. I have an even greater appreciation for you as an adult, for I thoroughly enjoy reading your wry and witty observations. I think you are as beautiful as ever and I wish you all the best! I missed you at Comic-Con a couple of years ago, but I hope to meet you one day. Good luck with the performances – I know you’ll be awesome!! – Eddie
You’re going to be FIFTY THREE? Would that I look as good as you do when I’m 53. As far as I’m concerned, you’re a REAL weight, not like most of the whisps in Hollywood who eat a piece of cheese every three weeks, and have air for breakfast. THAT’S unhealthy.
P.S. Loved your parting line in this post. Hee.
I would like to give my father’s advice on the matter of trash talk. He would calmly say “Sticks and stones will break my bones; But words will never “hurt” me.” He would also say, “If you can’t say something nice you shouldn’t say anything at all.” but he stole that from Thumper’s mom in “Bambi”. Ignore the haters, they’ll get bored and move on to the next.
I have the same dilemma! either take the crazy meds and not be crazy, or stop taking them and get thin. I’d rather be fat and happy. I say: LAUGH ALL THE WAY TO THE BAKERY.
In middle school, I got mocked a lot for looking like you (well, for looking like princess Leia). I’m twenty-three now, and the resemblance is pretty much gone. There are ways this is a blessing, because when you have someone else’s face, people expect you to be someone else, and that gets old pretty damn fast (almost as fast as metal bikini jokes, in fact). But I’m also a little sad about it, because I thought that maybe if I looked like you when I was young, it would mean I’d get to age as gracefully as you have, and look as awesome in thirty years as you do now.
All of which is a long-winded way of saying that you’re fabulous, and the haters need to stay out of your business. Don’t let those a-holes rent space in your brain.
Carrie, haven’t seen the show.. but maybe one day. I’ve been a fan for quite a while; like millions of others, we share the same birthday and many of the same issues; ie depression, addiction and being called “too smart” for my own good. Your story gives me so much hope! I wish you well!!
As tempting as it is, don’t read the Internet trolls! If they weren’t saying you’re too fat, they’d be saying you were too thin. You can’t win. You are fabulous and look great! Can’t wait to see your show.
Carrie
Don’t worry about the weight. But be very very careful on the vitamins because they can have very sever side-effects, and can screw up your mind or become toxic especially the fat-soluble ones A, D, E and K. They may have side-effects with any meds you are taking. Please do not trust the drug stores or the doctors about meds. Look them up on the web so you know exactly what they are suppose to do, their side-effects, and their drug and food interactions. I almost was put into the mental ward because the everyone that was treating me forgot to tell me not to drink anything with caffiene in it. I became extremely violent.
Take care
Carrie Fisher, you are wonderful and awesome. That is all.
Hi Carrie,
I just saw you on ‘The View’ and I thought you looked great. You didn’t look fat to me. You look curvy. Then there is the 10 lbs from TV, so you would look even thiner in person. Personally, I think there are way too many scrawny women on TV. My guess is that these abnormally thin women are going to have health problems as they get older
I would really like to trade stories one on one because I have a lot of them, too!! I am not about to blog about them though.
I had other things I wanted to say, but Karen A. on Oct.2nd said it better than I could have.
Keep on truckin’..
Carrie:
WHO CARES what these bitches and boys think about your weight? Don’t let them get you down. If they’re THAT focused on your weight, they will no doubt be focused on someone else’s weight (Lily Allen, Brittney Spears) tomorrow. The only thing smaller than their I. Q’s and attention spans are their penises.
Keep using the truth to alchemize the bullshit in life, sister. It’s the only way. Honestly, when I pull myself out of my own holes I dig, people like you help me see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Rock on, C.!
Carrie,
To ‘those people’ who feel the need to spew how we should ‘all’ look through our many stages of life I say—–”Eat at your own table what you want, you’re not welcome at mine!”
I’m in my fifties now as well, and, yes, it is a different image that looks back at me in the mirror, but, I still feel the same about myself and that’s all that matters.
I tuned into ‘The View’ to watch you, not the scripted, sometimes mean-spirited, women who interviewed you. You are the real deal and it was a pleasure to see! Oh, and you looked just fine! I mean seriously, I often wonder how those ladies make it through the show without busting out of those tight spanx or how their poor arches feel when they get let off the ladder of spikes they’re forced into in order to appear stylish. Well, the bodies on the screen I see look tilted and stuffed to the brim, so really, how enjoyable is that? lol
You should not put up with nasty comments from people hiding behind a computer who would never dare act that way face-to-face. That is why the delete button on the keyboard is such a wonderful thing!
We’re only young once, but, we can be happy forever! I love your stories and the honest way you walk the earth! I’m making Chicken/Eggplant Parmesan with homemade basil marinara sauce for dinner tonight and my table has a plate with your name on it!
Take care,
June
you crack me up.
SEEING YOUR SHOW TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!
p.s. -
The only “diet” worth going on is the the low carb diet. . . it’s the only one that lets me eat at Golde Coral every other night! Never mind that my cholesterol is skyrocketing and my blood vessels are so clogged I feel horny all the time from these arterial erections. ; )
Don’t waste your life, energy and time running on a treadmill and staring longingly at creampuffs from across the counter at the bakery. Just eat them and be happy. Fat and happy is better ANY day than skinny and nuts. Been there, done that.
Seriously, the idea that there is a “right way” to eat and exercise for everyone makes as much sense as thinking that one medication is right for everyone. From someone who had to cycle through eight billion SSRI’s before finding the one that rocks my neurons OUT (in a good way), it’s a crock o’kakka.
Rock on, C.!
Carrie, I think you’re great! you ALWAYS make me laugh!
I’m barely over 5′ and been fat my whole long life (in my 50’s) and other’s don’t get what it’s like to have a weight problem. They don’t get it that either your gaining or you’re starving, and starving hungry all the time ain’t no way to live!!!
Don’t fret or sweat it that there are those out there who don’t and cannot relate to this problem.
Be who you are, try and be as healthy as you can and rock on!
There are a whole bunch of us out here who love you just the way you are!
shelley in Cortez, CO
Personally, I’d much rather be fat and active and healthy than skinny, tired, and miserable. Wait. I AM fat and (somewhat) active and healthy. Oops. Guess I’ll have to console myself with some chocolate and tell you that I think you rock.
Hi Carrie,
I think you are still a total hottie! Just name the time and place and I will be there to marry you. By the way, in spite of the fact that my name is Kim, I am a male member of the species and will be a youthful 53 in a couple of months. We can exchange horror stories if you like, and rest assured, I have some real mind benders to tell. The best of luck in all your endeavors, including marriage.
Sincerely,
Kim Eakin
OMG how I relate and I’m not even in the public eye! I turned 40 (12 years ago), got married and quit smoking – BAM, 10 pounds. Now I’m on the wonderful road to menopause (BAM … another 10 pounds) … I’m 5′1 – 20 pounds looks like 40. BUT CARRIE, I LOVE YOU, YOU’RE F-ING FABULOUS!!! p.s. did a little blurb about your appearance on the view yesterday. check it out. Bring you one woman show to L.A. PLEEEEEEZE!
What did you think of Matt Lauer? I thought he was kind of a douche. Was that just my impression or did it feel
like he was being douche-y?
Unlike those assholes (especially my ex) I will love you no matter what size, shape or color you are Carrie! I have felt like my weight, more than anything has kept me from getting success, love and happiness and as you know it is a struggle no matter what to find these things. Eating and drinking makes me happy. So suck it World! I like working out and I like eating healthy. I wish my body would respond to these things, but it seem to be resisting. I’ll stick to things I can sort of control, like my own feelings. Keep the good vibes going, sweetness…for all of us struggling with our own demons with spare tires and extra chins!
You, Carrie, are awesome! And I thought you looked great on The View!
Anyone who disagrees with me can SUCK IT!
You’re beautiful just the way you are. Keep writing and making us laugh.
Look at it this way Carrie. For every 1 person that complains about your weight, there are 500 that would gladly get trapped in a trash compactor with you. The line forms to the left guys.
Fuck ‘em!
I don’t get it, fat? Where?
I think this is a bigger problem.
Not with you, but with society towards women, especially women over 50.
After turning 50 I noticed that I am not as noticed as I used to be.
There is an air of not being valued the older I get. Kind of like being dismissed.
If it’s not weight it’s something else.
As if there is something wrong with aging. I really don’t get it, where did this come from? Who and/or what integrated this into our society and why? And why don’t more women talk about it? I look into the eyes of older women my age and It’s as if there is a tacit acknowledgment of this phenomenon but no one speaks of it. Women need to stop comparing themselves to the outside world and start embracing our womanhood in all its facets and sizes.
So bully for you Carrie Fisher, you just keep on keeping on.
HERE’S WHAT WE NEED TO DO:
Have your EOE compile a list of addresses for these jackasses that continue to give you grief. Then have him send it to all of us on your blog who love and adore you. We will gather them all up and, well….have a “friendly discussion” with them about manners and respect. I, of course, will be on hand to adminster last rites to whatever is left when we get finished with them.
to hell with those who can’t see your beauty!
Love you,
Rev G.
Loves me some Carrie Fisher. All decent people do.
Hey! You were awesome on Today and the View! Don’t let those shallow Star-Tards bother you. You have superior intelligence and wit which is something those obtuse blog holes will never achieve. Heck if you’re worried about your house just get some new landscaping and make yourself feel better.
Carrie,
While I don’t know you personally, I have witnessed your life from your movies, television, and guest appearances. You have always seemed like an extremely honest and forthright person. Your wisdom, that was obviously forged during a life under great scrutiny by the public, should be your most highly valued trait. In my mind it is.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could stay twenty five for our entire lives? Wouldn’t it be even greater if the world wasn’t filled with morons who expect that of us?
Carrie, you’re talented, witty, strong, beautiful, and we, your fans, love and appreciate you. Time spent caring about the opinions of others is time wasted – only exercise your fine ass if it so moves you.
I’m 54, and there are lines on my face, gray hairs on my head, and more than a few pounds extra on my butt; when did it become a sin to look our age??? The wrinkles are a testimony to both gut-busting laughter and wrenching tears – my gray hair tells the story of stress and lessons learned. The pounds? Well, my metabolism retired and moved to the Bahamas about the time I married a wonderful man who’s a fabulous cook. Oh, well! It’s a price I’m willing to pay.
You are fucking GREAT!!! Everyone else can PISS OFF!!! No one can match your brains or humor. Our media spends WAY too much time on critiquing people’s bodies. It is SO bizarre!!! You are FABULOUS!!!! Exactly like you are!!!
Fat, shcmat! Happiness is what it’s about, no matter the package.
Coming to your show on the 9th. Can’t wait!
P.S. Went to the second taping your mom did of Will & Grace years ago. She swore like a sailor and we ate it up. Love that Debbie too! Ever since I saw Singin’ In The Rain as a kid.
And YOU? What a brilliant comic mind. That doesn’t change no matter how big your ass is!
Peace,
D
Carrie, I’m turning 58 in a couple of weeks. I’ve battled weight issues all my life. It occurred to me one day that the best hugs I’ve ever received were from old, fat ladies. And each time, the fact that they were old or fat was the farthest thing from my mind. I’d rather be known for my outstanding, kind and generous interior any day, than for my exterior. Wouldn’t life be boring if everyone were thin? I think you’re great. And if you ever need a sisterly hug…
Carrie,
You have been my most cherish idol since I was 3. There is nothing you could do, much less weigh, that could ever change that. An entire generation of women grew up believing girls could shoot a blaster and strangle a worm in a bikini because of you. Thank you for continuing to reach out to us, and I will personally kick the a** of anyone who says anything about your weight.
Ms. Fisher
I have been a fan of yours since I was a little girl. Star Wars was the first movie my parents went to see together when they were dating. I must admit I had no idea you were also an author. I was in the audience of The View yesterday and was so excited to find out you were going to be a guest. I felt like a little girl all over again and enjoyed your segment the most. As soon I got home yesterday I began to read “Wishful Drinking” and I didn’t put it down until I was finished. I love your writing. So much so, it caused me to come to your website. I simply have not had enough of your words. I admire your raw honesty, your wit, and your strength. You are an exceptional soul and I thank you for allowing me, just a reader, a girl who grew up admiring your grace and beauty, the opportunity to admire… well, you. You’re more than just a beauty, you’re the whole package, the real deal. I appreciate that. I hope to catch your show. Best wishes always!
Janice
Hi Carrie,
I love you! I saw you on the View! You are hilarious! Your life is so much like mine…
Anyway, I am short too and had the same Bipolar as you. However, I found out that all my symptoms are due to celiac disease http://www.celiac.com and after being on a gluten free diet since 1996, I have eliminated all my symptoms!
You can too.
You can get back to being your Princess Leah figure again, no problemo. I did. I have mucho to share with you.
Let’s get together!… as Hayley Mills used to sing… I am 57.
Love and Happiness,
Susan
Like everyone’s been saying, as long as you’re healthy, it doesn’t matter if you’re not skinny. You should be glad you’re not like any of those other anorexic starlets!
Hello Carrie,
I’m not convinced that Lucas hired you because of sex (you were the best by far during the screen tests), but whatever the reason – the fact that you weren’t a waif back then AND looked fantastic made a tremendous difference to me and my friends. I’m 42 and back then it was a shock to see a brunette heroine and an even bigger shock for her to be tough, smart, and self-sufficient. Leia was a great character, but you in the part is what made the difference to my best friend who happened to be brunette, 5′ even, and with what her father called “chubby chipmonk cheeks”. This girl was emotionally abused and there on screen was actually a princess heroine with the same physique. It honestly changed her life. Thank God they didn’t cast some boring blonde twig.
The public imagination wants women who were once gorgeous to remain so eternally. They want to feel that movie stars whom they adored are actually more beautiful in person, always – morning, noon, and night, and will stay that way forever. They feel personally injured, as though the star had indeed “signed a contract to remain adorable”, if that person ages in a way that is physcially anything less than stellar.
I remember after some aging star had a bunch of work done and pictures were up on HuffPost that half the remarks were “oof, how terrible that facial stretch job looks, no laugh lines, no life – she looks like a plastic freak” and the other half were “hot mamma, I’d do her anytime anywhere, she sure has kept it together”.
I think everybody in the public eye wants people to adore them, and it stings if they don’t. So I get it, you’re stung. But do you really want the “I’d do her anytime” comments? Really??? Please no. You’re great. Be yourself and be happy about it. And if not, get better meds.
Anne Hills
Portland, Maine
CarFish-this is the only scale that really matters. You can weigh in here anytime, the answer will always be “we fucking love you!” You rock the roll!
Well, I am 46 and quite plump myself. I used to be very cute once upon a time too. Join the crowd. We are all a mess, Carrie, you are doing better than most. I love you, you crack me up!
I saw you on the View and thought you looked great! I’ve been following your blog, so I had no idea what to expect. Again, you looked great. Nothing bovine in sight. Except for Heidi’s devil horns. But that’s beside the point.
Princess Leia weighed like 12 pounds. That may have worked for her (30 years ago), but in real life and on earth, people grow, or expand (hopefully both emotionally and physically from their younger selves. I think it is necessary. Who wants to see a 50 year old woman in a bikini? Except for Valerie Bertinelli, but she’s eternally cute and I’m convinced some sort of mutant. I remember hearing you explaining why there’s no underwear in space…something about things shrinking and expanding and choking. That’s true on many different levels.
But really. I never watch the View because it bores me and Hasselbeck has some sort of brain damange, but I happened to be flipping through channels looking for a game show or crime drama and caught that you’d be on next and I plotzed. I watched it with my mother and she immediately said, “She looks great…wish I still looked like that”.
I’m a fan of your entire body (haha, weird) of work…except Star Wars. I’ve never actually watched one. But that’s neither here nor there. I was just thrilled to catch you on a talk show. I hope to some day see your show show, but I don’t get to NYC very often. Please come back to Boston!
Much Love.
Lovely Carrie,
I just watched you on a clip of the Today Show, and you are hilarious. I could hear the crew in the background laughing, too! They obviously love you, as we all do. You’re brilliant, beautiful, amazing. Thank you for sharing your struggles so openly…we are still in the closet about so many things that ail us, and you blow the hinges right off. Good for you. I’ve been through a tough few years (my cancer, mom’s dementia), and your advice to laugh and lighten it up is spot on. Life is too short and ridiculous. We need to laugh and share. Keep writing, please. Tons of love and angels to you always. xoxo
I’d punch every asshole who has said something about your weight square in the face if it would somehow result in my being able to get out to the city to see your show, but sadly, I think all it would result in would be my getting arrested.
You’re fantastic, slightly heavy or not.
Carrie – saw you on The View and you were so funny! You should be on the panel there and they should get rid of 2-3 other people.
Meanwhile folks who make those awful comments about overweight people – I got something to say to them.
You’re ugly
I can always go on a diet
You see, ugly people can’t change that but us chubbies can *grins*
And I’m 7 years older than you, funny lady. Keep on keepin’ on. *S*
Carrie, I went to the library and got one of your books, I’ve read Postcards from the Edge and saw the movie, loved it all. I think I got Surrender the Pink and am on a waiting list for Wishful Drinking. I guess I could buy it but I got laid off and I’m broke! But hey, you are one smart cookie and witty to boot. My mom told me that she saw you on Matt Lauer and made some comment about your hair and weight. I love my mom, but I really wanted to smack her upside the head, she’s always telling me how fat I am and how I should lose weight, her whole life has been about dieting and I just find it so boring. I’m pretty healthy and I exercise but I’m overweight, I’m 57 years old, I don’t look like I’m 23 that’s for sure. I was a hottie in my day, but like you I take meds for my depression and I had a kid and I’m short. I’m just sorry you have to do this in public, I don’t think I could do it, I’m too damm insecure, and I have a feeling you feel insecure also, but you are talented and you write great stuff. Fuck the naysayers, tell them to go to hell and keep on being you.
Who cares about what goes in your mouth, but what comes out – which is imminently unique and identifiable. We met at your house a few years back at a mutual friend’s party, for which you were a gracious, funny host. Your Mom and I have worked together a few times and I enjoyed your posts on her too. Rock on Ms. Carrie.
You are as beautiful to me now as you were in 1977. A strong woman is a beautiful woman and darlin’ you are gorgeous!
Also, for the record, you are still cute as hell and funnier than ever.
As Bette Midler used to say…..”fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke!!!!!!” I don’t give a rats ass how much you weigh and anyone with half of a working brain —- oh wait—-maybe THOSE are the ones who do!!! Laughed all the way thru reading Wishful Drinking. You could have 14 eyes and I wouldn’t care, let alone a pound or two. My guess is that most of your detractors who have issue with your weight are all the morons who, 30+ years ago, were looking at your Princess Leia pictures and beating off while chanting things like “yeah, that’s it…..suck it Leia!!!” Don’t let their moronic comments WEIGH YOU DOWN!!
I know you’ve heard this a million times, but who cares what people think ? People mock others to cover up their own faults. I have faults, you have faults too – that’s part of life, but so what ? I admire your strength to push on – you are an inspiration to me and I thank you for it.
Fuck them all Carrie! Tell them to blow it out their fucking arseholes! Yip, I feel better for writing that!!!!
Maeve-N.Ireland.
I wish I could say I cant relate…oh how I wish it.
Alas, I can not. Especially now that I went and pissed off an entire universe of underage drinkers and they’re having a blast taking pot shots at me on my blog…which is oddly enough finally starting to gain some exposure. I don’t know how I feel about that.
It’s ironic though, as I read through the comments left here, that these people are telling you the same thing that people around me, are telling me. But for some reason, the logic they use to get their point across – in terms of the haters, sounds more believable coming from complete strangers telling YOU these things, than those around me, who know me intimately – telling me.
What makes people think that anyone who is not the perfect weight for their height is somehow less worth being a part of the human race, less intelligent, less well-spoken or less able to contribute? I don’t get it. What’s worse, I don’t understand it.
I wish I could talk about the huge two year legal battle I just went through where weight (along with sexual harassment) played a huge part in what happened. But as I sold my soul to settle it and in return was given a check which basically gagged me forever. You still have your voice…use it to shove a proverbial corn cob up the asses off all the haters and people who think anyone who is not “ideal” in any way, shape, or form, is somehow less human or equal!
Carrie –
I saw the show last night at Studio 54 (Friday, 10/2). God I had a blast. The Hollywood Inbreeding segment was hilarious! Thank you, thank you, thank you for a truly funny and inspirational night.
Ignore ALL of the weight comments. You are a beautiful person. Last night you enriched the lives of many in the audience.
btw – I LOVE when you do your mother’s voice—-I can picture her.
Be well. Thanks again for sharing your stories and memories.
George
Don’t change a thing, Carrie. You are gorgeous.
saw you on craig ferguson a while back. thought you were freaking hilarious and thinks you have fabulous hair. Don’t listen to those small minded individuals who make fun of you. They are jealous cuz because you have a bestselling book and a fabulous play coming out and they don’t.
Hey Carrie, as long as your funny and witty and intelligent, I don’t care what the hell you look like.
And no one else should either.
Its whats inside that counts. But honestly, I think you have the best of both the inside and the out, so it REALLY doesn’t matter anyway.
Keep it up.
Best of luck with your show!!
Went to see Wishful Drinking last weekend. LOVED IT !!!! One criticism, however. I was seated in the first row mez, but there were several instances when I could not hear the dialoque. I hope you can adjust the audio situation, because other than that, the show was a scream!!!
hey carrie-
caught your sunday afternoon show (a week ago)…THANK YOU for makling the last day of a 3 week “round the world trip” the BEST! You rocked the socks off…What a talent!
Cheers from the lovely land downunder…
Renee Blackwell
reneeblackwelldesign.com
Saw the show today. It’s fantastic! Laughed out loud (a near impossibility for me) numerous times. I’d love you even if I weren’t 54 and 25 lbs. heavier than 10 years ago! BREAK A LEG tomorrow!
Carrie,
As someone who has long admired you, and even knows people in common, it’s unfortunate to see you writhing under the microscope. To quote the movie War Games, “A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.”
Be yourself and be comfortable with yourself. People dig that. Think organic. Your inherent brilliant wit is a powerful weapon. Maybe you’ll even flip some tired ideas about aging women. Humor is an insidious weapon.
I see people here writing about their struggles with hypothyroidism and resulting inability to lose weight. Its so tragic how many people are living undiagnosed (or worse) poorly diagnosed with this terrible condition.
Being hypothyroid weight gain was an uphill battle, I could never take off that 30 lbs (I was undiagnosed hypothyroid for 20 years before finding the right answers). But the sad part is that hypothyroidism effects everything; ability to exercise, enjoy life, be happy, have any energy at all.
So weight issues aside, I wanted to spread the word about how to get help. I have affiliation with the website below but want to share because it helped me get my life back, maybe it can help people here too.
http://www.stopthethyroidmadness.com/
Feeling good is worth fighting for. Good luck all!
(Correction, sorry, I have no affiliation with the aforementioned site)
As a single lesbian mom of two kids, two things. One, having kids totally destroys your body. I’m sure you wouldn’t trade Billie for anything, now, would you? And Two, you might have curves, but you have the most amazingly hot rack of any celebrity out there. I love your rack. Do not change a thing. Fuck ‘em.
Well, I don’t expect that you will see this, but I’m going to say it anyway. I’m 50 years old, and in the past year I’ve lost 30 pounds. The way I did it is that my husband died of cancer last year after three years of wretchedly awful treatment. Then a week after he died I was diagnosed with cancer too. Aching grief and cancer treatment has a way of killing the appetite, it appears. So people tell me I look great. They don’t know what it cost. Big deal if life results in some extra pounds. The people who are obsessed with how they (or someone else) looks in a bikini aren’t paying close attention, and they clearly aren’t living in the real world.
Funny, William Shatner no longer resembles Captain Kirk! How dare he age and change. Yet, there he is… fat, happy, successful…. could care less about anyone’s criticism. He laughs at all the delusional people who want him to fit their image so they feel time is not marching on… or that they are never going to age or change. Reality check!
You are so awesome. People hang on your every word or action. If someone is critical of you, maybe it’s because they are so miserable with themselves. The rest of us consider ourselves lucky you survived this long and are willing to share ANYTHING with us!!!! Hail to Carrie… carry on girfriend.
Suggestion: read In Search of the Miraculous…
I saw you on talk shows twice last week. I thought you were terrific. I was glued to my tv. I started looking into going to your show and received your book as a birthday present yesterday. You are about the most interesting person out there. There is noone I would rather have a cup of coffee with than you. I think you look just fine, but to be so worried about your looks diminishes what it is that you have to offer NOW. Don’t live in the past. Don’t allow people to make you live in the past. None of us can go back to being 20 again and, really, who the hell wants to? The people writing that shit are probably young and ignorant as hell. Who cares what they think. They are all headed in the same direction as the rest of us. They will have a rude awakening ,someday in the not so distant future, when they look in the mirror and realize that all the plastic surgery in the world isn’t going to undo what father time does. Remember Carrie…success is the best revenge.
You are beautiful inside and out and don’t let anyone tell you different…not even ‘Carrie Fisher’……..
Oh, please. You know you’re above all of this typical, vapid BS. It’s not REAL. I realize that the media – coupled with the fact that the internet houses some of the most vitrolic cowards – is ruthless and youth/beauty/weight obsessed and it hurts when you’re the target of their venom. But, you have to understand the nature of the beast….snakes do what they do, which is – they bite. And that’s whats out there in the industry and beyond, baby! All of these people critizing you for your weight are nothing but venomous snakes, blind to the beauty of your intellegence and soul. Everybody gets old. Everybody gains weight. For god’s sake, don’t give them anymore power by blogging about it. We all know it’s simply WRONG to judge anyone for their weight. F**k them. Move on.
I fell in love with you when I was 4 years old….I’ve followed all your work -books, film, talk show(which I miss, btw)-and I still love you today. I love your strength. I could care less about your weight. And all of these folks commenting on your blog here could care less as well. And you know what? That’s REAL.
I hope to make it up to NYC soon to see your show….. Be well.
Don’t let the naysayers get you down Carrie,
You are beautiful, intelligent, funny, and I wish I could meet you and tell you in person how wonderful you are.
Happy Freakin’ Birthday too!!!!
If our weight determined who we are, then I guess we could make the argument that there is currently more of us to love. Of course I have often tried to use the argument that my personality is who I am and my friends have made it abundandly clear that there is more than enough of that to love. Some people say that who we are is the wisdom we possess, which is interesting because most of the wisdom I possess came from the spectacularly fucked up situations I got myself into at times. The kind that give us the wisdom that no one else has because it’s so rare to find someone trapped in the bathroom of a Dim Sum restaurant in Chinatown, naked, trying to figure out how to origami an outfit out of the paper placemats with the Chinese horoscope on them.
So that pretty much leaves spirit. You’re an almost 53 year old woman, with a weight issue, a history of substance abuse and bipolar disorder who has found a way to laugh at all that and making a living doing it. I figure if you are laughing and getting paid, the snarky commenters can fuck off.
I do have one suggestion. Don’t try to lose weight for the snarks. That’s going to be as successful as trying to quit drugs for the people we love. As my sponsor always says to me “How’d that work out for you?” Lose weight to be healthy, to do the things you want to do. Big hugs to you and break a leg tonight!
Well, there is some consolation for Ms. Fisher. If they ever do another Star Wars film, she could always be a stunt-double for Jabba The Hut. There is a striking resemblance these days……..
Hi Carrie,
Do you read the comments? I would love it if you do.
As I was saying previously, I am short too – 5′1″. It is very common for short people to have celiac disease:
Symptoms of celiac: http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/diseases/celiac.html
Being overweight is common in celiac:
http://www.celiac.com/articles/1077/1/39-of-Celiac-Disease-Patients-are-Overweight-at-Diagnosis8212A-Full-30-are-Obese/Page1.html
Bipolar is a symptom of celiac disease:
http://www.healthcentral.com/bipolar/c/41/1689/comments/
Celiac doctors in California:
http://www.celiac.com/articles/277/1/United-States—Doctors/Page1.html
Carrie, I know this diet will work for you too. It is like being ‘born again’ when you discover that gluten has been driving you crazy and eat gluten free.
All the very best,
Susan
Wow! Talk about a porker! She doesn’t look anything like she sued to! Possibly someone could tell her that if you eat like apig, you will soon look like a pig.
Yeah; don’t change a thing. Except eat less. A LOT less. Possibly the food you stop eating will help feed a starving India.
Let’s be fair. This can’t be Carrie Fischer. It’s like some big beats ATE her, and she’s struggling to get out again. Eeew. Talk about a BIG woman.
CF…..you are fabulous, clever, gorgeous and brave. You share everything with us
(almost everything….) and I admire you. (I don’t ADMIRE many people). I saw your
show three times in Berkeley, I am straight but I have a HUGE crush on you my
friend. Keep on it girl and continue to entertain us!
I just read your post ….by the way- I meet you when I was 10 years old, as Princess Leia
.Always hoping that my mom will take me back next year for the next Star Wars movies or buy me your doll (LOL).Youre an awesome person,
Thanks for sharing your many talents and hope you have a wonderful birthday
All issues aside. Having a sister who is bi-polar helps you understand many of the side-effects and other factors. However, just to share a tidbit of knowledge with you and possible readers. My sister stumbled across a Vegan cleansing diet. Long story short, her body started rejecting her bi-polar meds and essentially it caused her body to cleanse and compensate for the chemical imbalance. Now she sticks very strictly to the Vegan diet and she no longer takes bi-polar meds. Her doctor said it is very rare but of course it is possible. Funny they never said anything like this before. Anyway. Just a thought, I know there are miracles out there.
Take care.
Carrie if you do some modeling anytime soon could you do some Nude modeling cause I think your STILL HOT.
Wow!
She done grown! I don’t think I’ll ever see one of her movies in quite the same light again. Weight Watchers, anyone?
Carrie,
I figure if I’m exercising regularly and eating right, I’ve done everything that’s required for my health, so I try not to fuss about my weight even if my BMI is too high for my height. Woman who are super skinny at our age have sunken, cadaverous faces. You’re face is lovely!
You are a wonderful actress. I’m 5′ 2″ and I understand how hard it is to maintain esp. when your meds work against you.
Those ninnys are pathetic losers. What’s wrong with looking like a woman at 50 instead of an emaciated teenager? I work out too (Bar Method) and I still have a tummy– so I made friends with it
You know I came to your show last night, had a blast and also got a chance to speak with you briefly after your show, when you so graciously stopped to sign EVERYONES programs (who does that these days); anyway in those 2+ hours I don’t think anyone there made mention of your weight or even cared, most of the time I was laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes – so keep ‘em laughing and tell ‘em to Fuck off.
Bob Dylan was actuially dead right about Ironweed. And her Ethel Rosenberg was touching. But it was your script and your soul and heart that MADE the movie Postcards From The Edge. Annette Bening blew her off the screen in their small scene, and you give her way too much credit! – to apologize to the audience that she isn’t available to play you! Death is easy, comedy is hard, and she can’t do comedy without a bingo! script. She can’t play you because she’s t.g.a.o.h.g.- yale-p.r.firm- brand…. while you are the very best creative Carrie ever born to win by losing. (kind of like Jesus that funny Jewish loser) How I wish that you and your mother had been available to play you and your mother. At least Albert Einstein had the smarts to cast her in Mother. My mother had the same brand of icecream – the one with the mould on top.
why dignify weight-loss with a defense?
just exactly the way you are, you blessed soothsayer!!!!
actually.
Ugh. Most people nowadays will call anyone fat if they’re so much as a pound heavier then the type of girls we see on America’s Next Top Model.
So don’t ever consider yourself as being fat or unattractive in any way. People today are just jackasses that don’t know what they’re talking about! You always have been and always will be a total hottie! ^_^
Carrie, you are fabulous, darling! Fuck off, haters!
I feel inclined to do this…
YOU GET THE BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEST OF BOTH WORLDS!!!! La la la lee lee loo. Miley Cyrus crew you.
Feel free to slap me. LOL. And I think your weight should be your business. True, you’re a public figure and people seem to expect you to… always look 25. But I still think it’s unfair. Stupidfaces.
If you hate dieting, maybe you should just wear bunch of huge stuff to make you look smaller; like in that FiberOne commercial.
Once again: you’re hilarious, don’t change.
♥ Shelbi
You are fabulous just the way you are! I applaud your openness in your books, one woman show, and tv interviews. Thank you for sharing such personal journeys. I still watch you on “Hannah and Her Sisters” and “When Harry Met Sally” reruns. You are a strong woman.
I accept you as you are and what ever you will be or may become or so shall remain.
No matter the size it’s the person inside I like ( no matter how off-kilter or reasonably sane )
No matter how we try, we are either too fat or too thin
No matter what we gain or what we lose we can never win
So fuck the tabloids, fuck the fans, fuck the assholes who wanna nuke Iran
Fuck the critics, fuck the bloggers and fuck the brains out of some lucky man
Rave review in NYTimes
http://theater2.nytimes.com/2009/10/05/theater/reviews/05brantley.html
Hey Carrie,
Read the review of your show in the NY Times — much more of an accomplishment than being the same weight you were at twenty! You look great, too, and as long as you’re healthy please ignore the people who would rather carp about weight gain than appreciate your wit, good humor, and ability to survive and prosper. Great going, girl, I may even get my well-upholstered arthritic bones on a plane to NYC to see your show!
except for this: ” marriage to a Hollywood agent who left her for another man”
if he had left her for another man, she would be a man, and she isn’t a man, she is quite a woman.
Screw diets, they’re like direct selling. Nothing good comes of them.
There’s nothing wrong with your weight, I can’t fathom why anyone would think it’s their damn business.
Says the person commenting on it…
Just be whatever and however makes you happy-fuck all these people who think you should be this or that, are their lives so perfect? They are the type of people that aren’t happy unless they make someone else miserable. Don’t give ‘em the satisfaction. Like the old saying-”Fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke and fuck ‘em twice if they can”
Dear Carrie….Thanks for so many years of entertainment and laughs! NO ONE knows how bipolar disorder affects a person unless THEY or a loved one HAS IT. NO ONE, no one know how those medications affect your metabolism and your body chemistry for waight gain UNLESS they are on them. I have a family member who sufferes from bipolar disorder and has struggled all her life (since her teenage years) to deal with it. You are such an inspiration to her! She is considering shock treatments as a last resort..which she could have a cup of coffee with you and learn what you know about this procedure. Somehow, reading about it on the internet just leaves her more confused! Anyway, we have all your books, have seen your movies, and LOVE your blog! You go girl….unbelievable how talented you are…AND in the face of what most people could never understand. Rock on…in whatever size you wish! Hugs from the Pacific Northwest!!
I am a fan of both your mom and you. I think you look great. You are not as screwed up as you pretend to be for our benefit, but I like the idea of this show. I especially like that you can laugh at life’s problems.
And please, don’t pretend to be fat when clearly you have no knowledge of what true fat is, or diabetes, or anything else! You look great. When the doctor tells you your BMI is off the chats and starts feeding you expensive pills, well then you’ll know what to do. Amazingly, we are all too fat according to this crazy chart. The sad part is that the only diet that works is called the cat food diet.
One can a tuna a day, you’ll be thin in no time. Miserable, but thin and with low blood sugar.
Hi Carrie,
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Sorry I haven’t posted in a while [I know you've missed me, right?
Believe me when I tell you, there are people out there who are not obsessed with weight. You aren’t going to find them in the media, because that whole culture is about appearance, even the print media. There may be people like that in the blogosphere also, but not as many as we all think.
It’s sad that we live in such a self-loathing culture, that we think we are as bad as the people, who make us feel bad about ourselves (if that makes any sense}.
Not long ago, I found myself looking at actresses or models in a magazine, posing and primping and pursing their lips, and I thought, I’ll be none of them are as beautiful as Carrie Fisher. Really. I amaze myself sometimes.
Do as much as you need to do to be healthy, but absolutely no more than that. Please don’t worry about those jackals. They don’t deserve an ounce of your consideration.
I just read your book! Fabulous! only gay men can say that and get away with it… and mean it! I haven’t read a book that has made me laugh out loud like that in a long time! I have always love you and the work you do. Keep it up! Once agin It’s just Fabulous!
Carrie,
You’re PERFECT exactly the way you are. People can say whatever they want. As long as you feel good that projects in to how you look. And you look FANTASTIC.
Much Love and Respect-
Josh
Carrie, just read a review of your show, and got a small snipit of your show from the NYtimes…and I am intriqued…it looks amazingly fun! I would love to see it, but I live in Anchorage Alaska… any chance you might bring it to Alaska?
We could use your sense of humor and insight into the world up here in the north.
Cris
Please model, *and* put your body out there! I expect to be not only in my 50s, but 60s, 70s and hopefully 80s+ someday, and I’ll be damned if I won’t still be enjoying whatever it is my body can do. Don’t bust your ass for “us” to be thin–but your ass putting out the best work you can and showing younger women how awesome older women of substance are.
Congratulations to the success! Now I will have to travel to NYC to see the show – if it isn’t sold-out..
you are fabulous carrie,you fantastic
Please. You are cool as shit, smart as a whip, and cute as a button. All the chattering creeps can just fuck right off.
Looking forward to seeing the show.
I would love to invite you to join our online community of women writers @ http://www.shewrites.com. You are a master humorist that would be a wonderful addition to our community, which is made up of both established authors, playwrights, screenwriters, etc., as well as women who aspire to do what you do. Check us out, please. Even if you don’t, please keep up the great work. When I flatter myself, I describe my writing as Carrie Fisher, if she was an African-American woman. Though I’m not convinced that you’re not. Looking forward to seeing you on stage soon.
hi again carrie…. was going to send you a ‘good luck for opening night’ message…but i’m crap and dont even know what day it is…so it’s more of a ‘hope you had a good one’ message…. hopefully i’ll know what day it is when i;m actually coming to the show… the day after i get of a plane right?
sarah
MaMa’am,
I notice the sentiment of “fuck ‘em” is fairly consistent in the comments section, so I won’t repeat what so many others have expressed so lucidly or well. You’re an acclaimed and respected actor, author, and speaker; yet still human, so comments about your weight are sure to cut. But from a guy who’s been enthralled since you first kissed Luke swinging over a chasm, I say, unequivocally, you’re still the cat’s pajamas.
I find most of these comments strange. The “it’s not about how you look, it’s what’s inside” thing is fine, but she looks GREAT right now. I saw that photo of her in the NY Times this morning and I thought she looked really sexy. The fact that she has to DEFEND looking like that is frankly sick. What the fuck is wrong with people? Female beauty extends beyond little behinds and big breasts people – grow up! She was hot then, and is hot now.
There was a really neat article written about Carrie Fischer and her book at
http://heidiseveryday.com/?p=816
It’s so unfortunate that just because you are a celebrity and in the public eye that people feel that they have the right to publicly judge you. And what’s more unfortunate is that you can’t avoid having to hear what people say about you.I can’t imagine what that must be like. Sounds like hell. I wish that you were able to live your life being the wonderful, witty, intelligent, beautiful woman that you are without anyone piping up and making you second guess all of your great qualities. Fuck ‘em all. Enjoy life and if that means not being a size 2, well then tough titties for all the naysayers who will always find something to whine about. They can go eat a dick. xoxo.
why do you care? You’re Carrie Fisher!
You are simply gorgeous in the new Vanity Fair in your pj’s. Maybe your stylist should put you in pj’s more. You could be the female Hugh Hefner surrounding yourself with gorgeous young men who hang on your every word.
I am absolutely shocked at the comments of Christopher, Errin, Phil, and Mackennzie. This is Carrie’s house. We are her guests. I can’t imagine that you were raised that it would be acceptable to come into someone’s home, and behave like this.
Carrie – Your show is huge success, so you know someone has to say something negative. Don’t worry…your posse/house guests/bouncers will toss ‘em.
BTW, I am watching on the Disney channel Halloweentown from 1998…starring your Mom! Great kid’s movie…with your wonderful sense of humor, I think you would be great in something for children! (Thumbelina doesn’t count).
What a love letter to you in the NYTimes. The university where I work has complimentary copies of the Times and I just happened to be on campus (work in a satellite location) and snagged a copy.
Brava!
PS – still kick myself over the fact that you had the show in Seattle and I didn’t know it until the day you left.
I’m gaining age and wisdom even as I type, but you still look better than I do…at least in my mind you do. To all those people who feel compelled to be mean I say: careful how you criticize because those are the very flaws that well land heavily on you!
OMG the concern trolls are certainly out for you. For fuck’s sake, you think Carrie doesn’t know how to do research? She needs all of your advice like another hole in the head.
You are fine just the way you are. If you want to change, go for it, if not, we’re behind you all the way but I’m not about to give unsolicited advice to anyone.
Thanks Carrie, for sharing your smarts and humor with all of us. I, for one, am grateful.
you look GORGEOUS in vanity fair
We love you, Carrie!! You are wonderful, inside and out!! Screw the haters.
Seriously – you’ve got to stop judging yourself through the eyes of others.
I know, I know – easier said than done, especially from a “civilian” (man I hate that term but I’ve heard celebrities use it often to refer to us nobodys) – but really.
Also, what you resist, persists – so stop giving so much energy to a negative body image. It only strengthens it.
“You are braver than you know, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” Peace and joy to you.
Carrie, you are the fucking bees knees. Don’t change a damned thing. You are delightful in every way imaginable, and to bow to the critics, so riddled with their own flaws, is to make their criticism legitimate.
You know who’s legitimate? You are. You are 2 legit 2 quit.
The greatest knowledge one can possess is to know thyself, which you clearly have mastered. Don’t second guess who you are just to appease the peanut gallery. Know that for every mealy-mouthed worm out there, you have a thousand silent supporters who love who you are and what you are doing.
And that is why I made you the Woman of the Week: http://www.atchka.com/2009/10/woman-of-week-ix.html
Thank you for being you,
Shannon
So glad my weight changes haven’t been scruntinized by the world – give me the real Carrie anyday over the plastic Demi Moore types. I swear, all I do when I see her is check her out to see what else has changed on that face/body. Hard to believe she thinks we believe she’s just aging gracefully when her jaw is completely different. I love seeing you as you are. You’re beautiful and I mean it!
Hey Carrie, I’m sure you got this part down already.. Who gives a fuck what the haters have to say!!! Enuff said!!.
Coming up on 52 myself, and i have always been a pretty buff guy, but when yah get older, male or female, it gets harder to keep that body of your youth. I keep threatening to start that lemonade diet to help with some joint pain more than anything else. (i have accumulated a hell of a lot of boo boo’s that now jump up to bite me squarely on my ass). But alas, cant seem to get it started. I dont live an unhealthy life, i havent drank in 20 years, and gave up the “party life” long before that. Still smoke cigs, gotta put that on the same list as that damn diet me thinks. The important thing is that i am somewhat happy, i live life my way, i’m not out to hurt anyone and i wont allow anyone to hurt me, and as for what the rest of the world thinks? Who the fuck cares!! When yah care to much about what the rest of the world thinks, dwell on it, live your life to it, fuck baby, that aint livin”.
I shouldnt have to say this to yah. You have always spoken your mind, and i always got the impression that yah didnt care what the rest of the world thought. Your a doll and always will be. It’s your spirit, not your body that makes you that way. Those that cant see that arent worth wasting a thought on. There are plenty of us out here that love yah the way you are, bovine ass and all!! We see the person inside, thats whats important baby.
Fuck the haters, do and be what makes you happy. Be well
Obviously, people come here because they like you to begin with and aren’t looking to hurt you. But some of us come because of your choice of topic. I am in agreement with the previous commenter. You are far more interesting and attractive as a human being than a bag of plastic. If you need to care about what people think, choose the group that thinks the fake hollywood appearance that takes 7 hours a day to achieve is disgusting. Think of Bette Davis, Ginger Rogers etc. They did not look like this and they are now legends. They had true beauty. Not fish lips and balloon cheeks. Even Madonna looks disgusting anymore. You look very pretty and human. Please don’t inject your face or stress about your waist size.
Carrie
dont worry about what people say
you’ll always be pretty and die hard funny to me
Oh, dear god, Carrie, tell those insecure souls to go and tend to their own shallow and materialistic concerns!! (oh, nevermind, I guess you already did!) And please don’t quit doing the talk shows because whenever you’re on, I know it’s bound to be riotously funny and it totally makes my day. If people start talking about how you look on the show rather than how witty you are, the only thing I’d say to them is, “what kind of a moronic sense of humor do you have, if at all??”
P.S. I’m going to see your show uptown (I don’t know when yet) and I PROMISE not to get upset about your weight, or indeed think about it at all… I trust you’ll provide us with far more entertaining subjects on stage… if I weren’t so sure of that, I wouldn’t go in the first place, and buying a ticket just to get upset about someone else’s weight seems just a teeny bit wasteful and ridiculous, doesn’t it?
P.P.S. I absolutely adore you just the way you are!!
Dear Carrie,
I just came back from your brilliant show tonight and think you deserve many awards for the writing and for your incredible performance. You are really smart, clever and funny and I loved your show!
You deserve much praise for this play and for your wit and magic on stage. Who cares about your weight. Don’t let people get you down you don’t deserve it and I can relate! I was never 105 but I was much thinner as a 20 year old and when I gained the weight all I ever hear is ” YOU HAVE SUCH A PRETTY FACE” ” WHAT A SHAME!”
When you are 20 it is easier to be thin but I have been fighting weight issues for my entire life and I am sick of it as well.
You are brilliant and a funny and terrific performer and I applaud you and your show.
I am not as big as the women of the VIEW but it would make my life to interview you.
Hope to meet you and chat with you! You are incredible.
Corine Cohen
http://www.corinescorner.com
I love my bovine ass-love yours too. However, I am saving up for the botox. Don’t mind dimples on the ass, just my “san andreas fault”-like wrinkle between what was once my eyebrows. You know, the scowl line? It only appeared since I got married. Coincidence? F&^k no.
Hi Praise from the NY TImes for “Wishful Drinking:”
The New York Times is raving about Carrie’s show this morning ~ an excellent, thoughtful review:
http://theater2.nytimes.com/2009/10/05/theater/reviews/05brantley.html?ex=1270353600&en=708ad86e7d891b24&ei=5087&WT.mc_id=NYT-E-I-NYT-E-AT-1007-L5A
or http://www.nytimes.com
OMG, you crack me up! I’m a 53-year old woman who is 6′ and weighs MORE than most quarterbacks…the bastards! Diet AND exercise AND meetings started by a friend, Bill W., AND work, AND cleaning the litterbox, AND having a relationship with my husband…damn there is only so much an overweight, middle aged woman can take.
I absolutely love it that you look and sound like you have lived your life (BTW, your story sounds like it’s WAY more colorful than mine) and you’re willing to say “fuck off” to those who are aghast that you have EATEN FOOD and GIVEN BIRTH, and taken steps to RECOVERY in the past 30 years!!! I used to think recovery meant everything else would be perfect…well I guess that depends on how we define “perfect.”
Carrie, you rule. I can’t wait to read your most recent literary work and LMAO as I have when reading your other books. I like Acidreign’s comment, “Fuck the haters.” They only have power when we give it to them, so fuck ‘em.
Funny thought came to me after reading the NY Times review of Carrie’s highly successful show…
Darth Vader in combat with Luke Skywalker and upon seeing Luke’s skills, exclaims one word of praise:
“Impressive!”
What’s funny about this?
Luke Skywalker isn’t appearing in a successful Broadway show.
Okay, so I’ve been following your blog/twitter for about a week now and here’s what I’m noticing about you: you always seem to respond to the people who are the most critical and/or irritating. And I can’t figure out why you do that.
Maybe I just haven’t been following you long enough, but seriously. Not everyone’s opinion matters. You can ignore these people. Really. You can.
I agree with Rein. “You know you’re above all of this typical, vapid BS. It’s not REAL.”
There are PLENTY of people out there who love and admire you just the way you are. Like me, for example. I think you’re AWESOME. Just. Exactly. The. Way. You. Are.
Go ahead and gain or lose all the weight you want. You’re still Carrie and you still ROCK.
P.S. We share the same birthday – I’ll be 28. Happy October
Well, thank you for being so right. I know I tend to scan all areas around me for mines. I want to find them before they find me. But that doesn’t mean that those people that are so supportive and beyond pleasant about me aren’t much appreciated. It means a lot to me that I mean a lot to so many kind people. Kindness being a quality that I value above all others. It’s easy to be snarky and to be one of those people who somehow hold themselves as superior to those they do or don’t encounter. It must be a lonely world to feel so superior to others—–so superior that they have no peer…….The air must be thin up there. The air may be thin, but the people probably aren’t……
Hi Carrie,
It is, as ever, a shame to see that what we like to touch and fondle is not what we, as a society, are taught is the ‘proper’ way to look. What rubbish! You look healthy and wonderful, and your writing has long been an inspiration to me, as I am sure it has to many others. Surrender The Pink especially, for some reason. As a fellow writer, of less than average talents, I stand in awe of your work, and would love to know if you would ever consider bringing the show to Australia? I know that we may not be worthy, but still……. Love and special cuddles to you, as always. Jonathon xox
Well, scanning for mines before they find you is a good thing in theory, but lets face it, there are way too many assholes in this world to do that and it be a practical thing to dol.
With you being a celebrity thats pretty much impossible. Me, not living in that world and just being an average person would find that pretty hard to do, i would make myself crazy trying too. I have done many things in life, i have lots of life experience, and have also lived both extremes of life as well. One thing about human nature rings true for both our respective worlds, when one is successful at anything, there are always those around you waiting to tear you down, no matter what it is you do, no matter who you are. Pretty sure they call that envy.
You just need to flip that little switch inside you to the off position when exposed to people like that. I do realize though that in your situation, yah prolly got a thousand people taking shots at you daily, but then again, your out there and exposed to many more of them than someone like me, but yah know what? That switch works the same way in either case. Just flip that switch, throw your head back and rock on giving them that one finger salute while yah stroll away. Works the same for you as it does for someone like me.
You are very intelligent, and you know all of this. But sometimes when the jackals are lined up waiting to take bites out of your ass, every once in a while their gonna get to yah, happens to all of us. But i think you can see by all the posts here, that you have many people who respect and admire you. If each one of us had just one person on this planet that respected and admired each of us as we do you, i would call that a win. That’s where you got the haters beat in spades.
You rock Carrie, fuck the haters, they matter to no one.
I get what bluebird is saying, but being one of the supportive (and ridiculously vocal) ones on here, i never expect or anticipate responses to what I say. its not why i say it. its the act of putting positive thoughts out toward someone you value. and needing nothing in return. because they have already given so much to your life through their own. someone commented on some board about the people who comment here, like, ‘oh, right, they think she really reads that!’ and you know, who the fuck cares? i assume you do when you have a minute and you feel like it. and if not? 2 minutes out of my day for some positivity to someone else. i’m not going to regret that.
and then you know, there are the weirdos to whom a tiny bit of your attention would be magnified to an unhealthy level…..
I just got home from Star Wars in Concert. what a lovely job they did! and its funny, i never add you and Leia together in my head. consciously i know, but when i watch the movies, she’s a completely separate entity in my head. no clue if that makes sense. i’m probably one of the few people in the world like that!
Hope you and the E of E are getting as much rest as possible!
xo,
Ericka
Trolls are an eternal problem on any site. You meet so many kind and knowledgeable people on line, but you have to carry a machete to make a path through the weed.
I agree with you on kindness. It’s one of the most important thing.
Well, considering the “journey” you’ve made for 53 years, the whole weight thing is the LEAST you need to fret about Carrie. I’m reading your book now and LOVE it by the way-pardon the deviation, had to get that in there. By some stroke of fortune for (West) Michigan for a change (Jesus, we could use some entertainment), I’m crossing my fingers tight that your show will make it to this neck of the woods. You’re an intelligent, insightful, and hilarious person that’s got one helluva life story to boot! If you do, I’ll be waiting in line…..I’ll buy you a cup of coffee. I don’t think that will cause any combustion with meds—we can make it decaf just in case.
Dear Carrie ! I just wanted to wish you an early happy birthday. As it so happens, you are the only other female, in this world ( that I know of ), that shares the same day and same year , with me on the October 21. 1956 . I just wanted to let you know, that under our star sign, we have more in common, than one could imagine. Somuch so, I just wanted to let you know, that you are thought of each year, by me. And yes I hope that you will read this, and be happy about my message. I dont get into the celeberty hype, that some people transpire to. I always only take someone, at facevalue. And with that I take my time. To me you are my birthday-buddy, you might as well be my twin. I am happy and exited, that we are alive. So only now I got way ahead ,12 days ahead, of our much cheerished day , to go before all others to wish you a happy day. Well I would be so happy , if you when you read this and get all warm and fuzzy about this note. Because someone cares. Be well. And yes, we are a winner !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
btw, really like Mo’s suggestion: the part about making an album. You have a really singular and beautiful voice. we can submit songs for your perusal….both comic
“Boy From” by Stephen Sondheim from The Mad Show (a bossa nova featuring the question “why…do his friends call him Lillian?”) & his “God Why Don’t You Love Me, Oh You Do, I’ll See You Later Blues” from Follies.
and bittersweet
“How Do You Say ‘Auf Wiedersehn?” by Tony Scibetta & Johnny Mercer & “This is the World as Best as I Can Remember It” by Rich Mullins
you’ll want some rest after your showdates, and the good thing about anguish is it makes for a very profound sound – one quite unavailable to those losers who “win”. May your throw-aways be our eurekas.
The anonymity of the internet brings out the assholes. Try not to let them get you down! Besides, where are the photos of their flawless beauty? Take a breath, grumble a hearty “fuck ‘em”, and keep on making the awesome!
Carrie, it could be a lot worse… The Richard Gere ‘gerbil’ meme STILL exists to this day. ARGH! NASTY.
The INTERNET can be instant gratification and instant cruelty. A double edged sword of sorts.
Take heart, dear one. There are slim, young ‘perfect’ looking people who are snarked on viciously too. Unfortunately it’s part and parcel with the fame thing. I wouldn’t wish ‘fame’ on my worst enemy, frankly.
On a happy note… I FINALLY lost 7 pounds! I know it’s only seven pounds but I’ve been trying to lose some extra ell beez for a while and I was trying EVERYTHING. I finally found something that worked! White tea! It’s the only thing different I’ve been doing after trying other things unsuccessfully. I buy the organic white tea by “Prince of Peace” from Vitacost.com. It’s only $5.42 for a 100 tea bags! Whatta deal and it doesn’t give me the jitters because it’s very low in caffeine. It’s really helped my metabolism doldrums.
Well, I better get back to work.
((Hugs)),
Angelina =0)
Wow. You read my comment. That just totally made my day!
Kindness is fun!
(Maybe I should be kind more often…)
Hello Carrie,
I’ve just looked at your website for the first time in what seems like years and discovered your blog.
I’m impressed that someone who is in the spotlight, and unfortunately forever associated the with the one film role, is not afraid to be honest and frank in her opinions about the world and people, so that, I hope, for the wider audience, they see that you won’t take negativity lying down and fight for your corner.
Blogs are a strange therapy, you can say whatever you want in them and then look back and say, ‘There you go, I’ve said it, now I don’t have to ball my fists all day thinking about how mad some things make me!’
I think it is very important for people who go and see your show to accept that you are more than just that one role, which I refuse to even mention on principal. Its apparant to anyone with half a brain, that life hasn’t been perfect, but you fight your circumstances and always come out on top in your own way, whether it takes, days, weeks or years.
I guess the hardest thing for people to accept, is that it isn’t 1977 anymore, its 2009. America is, I hope, beginning a new era of tolerence, where we can see people for who they are rather than what their physical attributes, orientation or anything else is.
I was sitting in my office in London back in, I think 2001 (You’d probably know the rough time,) and along came this auction of your possessions that appeared on the internet. I remember there was tons of sci-fi related items, but my attention was drawn to a black and white framed photo print, which I believe had hung on one of your walls somewhere, which you had signed on the back. I won the auction and I still have it to this day!
I was asked at the time, with all the sci-fi stuff there, which, (As was pointed out to me,) would be worth thousands in the future, why I purchased a portrait photo, with no long term value.
Simple I said, because Carrie is a person, not an object, not a character, but a person.
Well done with the show, I hope you continue to fill the theater.
On a final lighter note, I once showed a worked colleague a picture of you back in about 1993. She was a bit of a know-it-all and it was always good to she her brought down a peg or two.
She said, pointing at the picture, ‘That’s Carrie Fisher. Isn’t she the daughter of Debbie Reynolds and Bobby Fischer!’
Boy did we laugh that afternoon.
Take care,
Lynda
London, England
We just returned from the matinee of Wishful. It was great. I admired your openess about mental illness and the conversational manner of the dialogue. I cannot believe I sat right next to Mike Nichols and Diane Sawyer the entire show and didn’t know who they were until the end!!!!!!!!! They were even in the lounge at intermission!!!! Besides that fact it was an unforgetable afternoon. Congratulaions.
Carrie,
The show is wonderful! You are truly talented, and very approachable. I am so glad you do not have a stretched plastic surgery face!!! People are surprised because they have a picture of you in their head from 20 some odd years ago. Who can compete with that? BTW, the people around me loved the show too.
Ms. Fisher,
I am curious if a dietician has explained to you that barely eating a thing means your body is in starvation mode and can’t release the adipose tissue stuck to your muscles. I’m not a dietician but this was explained to me by such a person. A well-balanced diet of proper proportion will help with weight loss and with mood. Take it slow and steady and the weight will come off. If it doesn’t then you may want to speak to a dr. about gastric bypass. Should you chose this life changing procedure best of luck.
I want you to live a long and healthy life becasue as long as you are alive I have a bipolar comrade I can admire. Thanks for being you.
Bill
Nevermind the critics, online fans, bloggers, paps … the toughest critic to please is ourselves and then next toughest critic is your loved ones.
“Love those who love you.”
REMEMBER ALWAYS!
You are gorgeous.
(but for the times when it gets all too easy to let other peoples opinions pull you down remember these words. It always makes me feel better!)
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Maya Angelou
Carrie,
There are worse things in the world than gaining a few pounds. You keep being your awesome self, make sure that you’re taking care of YOUR needs…and anyone who says different can suck it.
Seriously. No need for you to apologize to us for a little weight gain. It happens to the best of us…and it’s really not that big of a deal. Just take care of yourself as best you can. THAT is all anyone should be asking of you – not for you to try and cram yourself into some media-dictated, unrealistic, Barbie Doll vision of what they think you should look like… 53 year old women are allowed to have a few physical flaws here and there. To demand otherwise is rather irrational.
Most of us non-famous folks are getting pudgy by 30-35, anyway.
Besides, you’re still perfectly goregous and will continue to be no matter what your scale says. I’ll be happy to post a reminder for you any time you may need it. ^.^
Dust those haters off, girlfriend! And keep doing what you do best.
Love from Texas. <3
I recently saw your show. You are obviously healthy enough to be doing 8 gruelling shows a week on Broadway. Do any of the people telling you to lose weight have a Broadway show? No? Then guess what, YOU WIN! Healthy is far more important than skinny. Eventually people are bound to realise this.
Yeah, the naysayers can go FUCK THEMSELVES. Love you Carrie.
I would be happy to have you as my woman anytime. And I am 29
Who knows if you or anyone will actually read this, but thought I would drop a note just to let you know I find your words facinating. My mom menitoned she already has tickets to your show in December and figured I might as well check you out since she was rambling on of how funny you are. I must say, she was right on. You reminded me of myself and friends to a T. Keep rockin’ and much love for the show.
As someone whose watched my wife go from willowy, 28 year old dancer to a rather heavier early 51 year old wife and mother, I say bring it on! Women are beautiful at all ages and weight. And it’s not like I have anything to brag about. I’m a 100 lbs past my 6′/117lb ’stick-man’ physique of my early 20’s. Ooh, age, we all get it.
By the way, really like the how you looked when that reporter spoke with you on the sidewalk as you were getting in to your car from about 4-6 weeks ago. I thought you looked good!
You are magnificent. End of story. Fat is not a moral failing, and I am sick of folks being treated like it is. Fuck ‘em.
Carrie, (if I may) you appeared on some talk show (sorry don’t recall which show) very recently and I loved how genuinely amusing or charming or shocking, or crazy fabulous you were. You can always tell when the crew laughs out loud. So, Who gives a fuck…I’m a still living bi-polar express drain happily disemboweled and supremely lucky that I was fired from my job, live in Central Floriduh where my moon-shot ranch house is in loan modi-fuck-ation, I haven’t had sex in 16 years, 3 months, 14 days and 23 ½ minutes, out of 46, approximately. When I’m conscious I study Bach and particle physics for fun, my ‘cello isn’t talking to me because it’s always depressed, my three collies co-exist in 11 dimensions (what’s better than that?) I shudder with bliss that I won’t ever again afford the following: My anti-psychotic meds (make me big fat pork pie, bit’s of gristle flecked by be-spittle(d) gravitons – black hole descended down poop shoot has bolted my ass to that glorious overstuffed Lazy-Boy soul sucker), the Dr for dollars paid to the sloth thing behind sliding glass window partition, and my loan sharks (Chase, Citigroup, Amex, etc – I have a list by request) can suck me teeny tiny pee knob. And finally, going to the movies – just can’t sneak in anymore, my ass-hole starts whistling Cossi fan Tutti – it’s not even a coloratura!!!! Seriously, (just kidding) my BP support group is a bit touched somewhere that shouldn’t be so soft. We need mindless entertainment just like crazy stupid Americans living the dream. But we mostly po’ folk. Can you get us hooked up with cheap-ass tickets or passes or something? You have magical people powers to make things happen.
“pee-pole, arrrrghh thugs tastiest treacle india whirrrrlllledddd!!!!!”
- Now I remember, yeah, it was the Today show, I think…maybe? I hate that show…
anyway, you made me laugh with envious gas and sudden rectal winds, and then I started crying…
don’t eat to much of that vitamin stuff… eat more fruits instead.
BTW,… anyone has a picture of the emperor smiling?
I just realised that our chancellor (germany) looks a bit like him ;o)
http://www.spiegel.de/images/image-23713-panoV9free-monv.jpg <– looks yourself, she’s planing something evil… lol
Carrie
Be who you are, and say what you feel..
Because those who mind don’t matter…..
And those that matter don’t mind.
xxx
Who cares how much you weigh? I’m coming to the Nov. 1st show and looking forward to it. On behalf of some of us wackos out there who happen to be foot fetishists, it’s nice to see you spending so much time barefoot. Feel free to bare your “sole” at the Sunday show. Love ya!
I think you’re beautiful… and ridiculously funny
Seriously. Fuck ‘em – you look like yourself, and you are gorgeous.
Although it’s easier to say than believe. I blame my extra weight on my chronic illness, which involves food allergies that make be blow up like a Macey’s parade balloon. But we are still above ground – beats the alternatives. So what if there’s more weight holding us to the planet than we had 30 years ago. So what?
You help me. Your work is a balm to me, and obviously so many others. Someday I’ll find a way to see you (SSDI does not give me lots of travelin’ $).
Reread the first sentence. So there
I first saw you in “When Harry met Sally”. I will never forget the look on your face when you realized at lunch with Sally, the suggested potential man to date was married. You pulled out the Rolodex and folded over the card and pronounced, with utter disdain and surrender, “married…..” I fell in love with you then.
I have not seen ANY of the Star Wars films, I am proud to say. But that final poem hologram you jotted down in the book, “wishful drinking”, is indeed fucking awful. If obi wan kenobi is “his” only hope, then trouble certainly awaits.
I am not one to think you can EVER live on hope. I abhor religion, but find meaning in a great philosophical debate and enjoy community with spirit. Doing the right thing when know one is looking, is one of my motto’s. It builds character, like cooking for your daughter did for you. As you get older in life, you realize that nobody IS looking. Just you.
Meaning, you may be in the public light, but you live for you. Remember, you are NOT your mind, you just have one. It may rattle and roar, but you get to decide how to act.
We have many things in common. The first is that I too, married a songwriter for his words.
This is how my songwriter got to me: It is called, “Day in and Night out”
Teach my poor body to hold you. Teach my faltering fingers to feel you. Teach me to love you and I’ll love you more, than you have been loved before.
“I was not born for you, you were not born for me. We were born for ourselves and we’re both of us free. To see everything that the waterbug sees. To follow our passion anywhere that we please.
Day in and night out, though we suffer within and we suffer without.
If I were in heaven and you were in hell. I know very well, I would eat my pride and I stand by your side, and I ‘d burn by your side, day in and night out, though we suffer within and we suffer without.
Teach my poor body to hold you. Teach my faltering fingers to feel you. Teach me to love you and I’ll love you more, than you have been loved before.”
We married after he took a trip to Scotland, cause I was living with another man, and I wouldn’t give him the time of day, but he wrote me EVERY DAY. Talk about judgment and determination. These letters, of thin blue folded paper, would come to my mail box. The words were very tiny but tense.
We divorced seven years later. Not compatible, but a great writer. Which brings me to the other things we have in common.
Both my two children are gifted in many ways, and bipolar. Jon, who is thirty, is now working on his masters in computer engineering. He has intelligence WAY off the charts. His humor is beyond rye. You are right about the stigma to those with bipolar. In fact, people with bi polar are some of the MOST creative and intelligent people in our society and are born with GREAT sensitivity, but suffer from this interesting challenge. After Jon graduated from HS, he took Reed College up on their offer for a four year free ride. He graduated with a degree in molecular biology and bio-chemistry. He graduated only after he had his first flirtation with a bipolar episode, losing thirty pounds, growing his own food in his front yard in Portland, making compost that grew many mighty fine maggots, and oh, for his thesis, he tried to weigh the soul of a mouse!! Reed had a policy that frowned upon using animals for any experiment, even if you weren’t killing it. Needless to say, Jon was very disenchanted with the world of science. Being the genius he was, Jon thought everyone should share their knowledge, faculty and students alike. What better way to figure out the mysteries of life? He soon realized that for grants and such, you needed to covet your findings. Double drats!! Jon wasn’t that enthusiastic about working for pharmaceuticals anyway. So after graduation, he went to work for whole foods, which he later named, whole penis. Long story short, Jon got fucked/ fired after working long and hard, but won his job back through a long arduous process of fighting for it. But, in the end, they had to close the store in Milwaukee down, due to the lack of shoppers. After five or eight trips to the hospital, Jon finally realized he needed to stay on meds. He lives on his own with a gay women and their three cats. Sound familiar?
Lily, my beautiful gifted daughter is bi polar too. Yes, where is my medal? She never fought to stay off meds. though. She was compliant from the get-go. Jon responds to meds right away but Lily doesn’t, and nothing worked for her. N O T H I N G. So after two years, and a lovely stay at an organic farm called spring lake ranch, we put her on closaryll. Now she has her blood tested once a month so her white blood cell count doesn’t drop to dangerous levels. Fun. Lily was at Cornish college of the arts when her first episode hit. She was training to be a professional dancer. She danced and performed all her life with a genuine grace. Her appearance is gentle. It was quite a shock when she had to leave college because she kept crying all the time. She told me it was because dance was so beautiful. I said, “so beautiful you have to leave class and go to the washroom?” Didn’t make sense. Lily ended up in the hospital four times. I remember her getting soooo angry when she was sick. She would say, I want to kill someone. “Weird, I thought?” How could this graceful, sensitive, intelligent gentle soul be so angry, that it felt like she wanted to kill someone? I hid the knives anyway, even though she didn’t really want to hurt anyone. She just felt that angry. Really scary. Both kids got naked during mania.
So in a nutshell, I am fifty two. I was married to a songwriter and I have two children that are bipolar. I feel blessed knowing them. I am grateful to you for writing your book “Wishful Drinking”. Throughout the many crisis’s, my kids and I have built such a strong bond and respect for one another. I told my kids that what they have, they CAN handle. Somewhere in that idea is the strength to carry on. That is why THEY have it. It is why you have it too. I do believe you must all have balls!!
ps. Don’t go off your medicine. You are loved …….
Laurie
pss. What a pleasure to see your mother, in “Mother”, with albert brooks. wonderful! She was just hilarious. The protective ice line is a favorite.
psss. I am glad you said poor britney spears. I feel the same way.
Just saw your show and you looked fabulous. Fuck what people say about your weight — you don’t have to lose any. But you should trim about 20 minutes of material. Also, lose the Republican bashing. People weren’t laughing and NYC is about as liberal an audience as you’ll get. Most of your material is so original but the Bush stuff is just cliche — you’re better than that. By the way, I happen to be a Republican, and I’m also a big fan of yours (despite being only in my late 20’s and not even knowing about half the drama your crazy parents were involved in). When you go overboard with the Repub jokes, you’re personally insulting me, and putting yourself in the same category as dumb Hollywood celebrities who are don’t have any of the talent with the pen that you do. Are you really as retarded as Barbra Streisand and that whole crowd? I don’t think so. That’s all.
Dear Carrie,
You are beautiful inside and out. I know you’re not an overeater. Medications can have the effect of putting weight on a person. The important thing is that you feel good about yourself, you make other people feel good, you enlighten people, you make them laugh, you share your life with the public and all this great good comes from it. This calling someone fat can have such a devastating effect… no woman likes it in our society today… it’s so horrifying and can throw off even the smartest, highest IQ ever. Like-you-are. I’m sorry people are so gross sometimes. Remember how much you are loved.
Your fan forever
Joy
Ignire those hateful critics carrie. You are an incredibly beautiful woman on the inside and the outside. You are smart, funny , and intelligent. Keep making the world a better place with your great work and ignore those hateful and stupid naysayers!
Wishing you the best,
Scott
Casey and I loved your performance last Sunday.
It was the highlight of our 25th anniversary weekend in NYC.
Remember the famous quote: “Never trust a skinny cook!”
Love,
Casey and Jim
kinda makes you wonder, though, whether Hitler could also fart at will…..
Saw your show last night. You were dynamic, charming, hilarious and exuded a ton of energy on stage which radiated to the audience.. It takes a very special person that can poke fun at themselves and do it with self-respect and respect for the crowd watching and listening. You are very clever and have so much talent going for you. Your lines in “Shampoo” were my favorite. Keep up the good work.
Nadine
Dear Carrie
Just came back from NYC where I thoroughly enjoyed your Wishful Drinking performance. Personally I thought you looked great. It was wonderful to be able to sit in a small venue and listen to your frank and open talk about your life and the inside of your head! I’ve had to declare war on my fat bod (yes, medications for depression and anxiety, steroids from cancer treatment and of course, the bloat that drinking put on me). I do an hour on the treadmill and lift weights. After 14 days of this torture I have managed to shave off an enormous FOUR pounds. Is it worth it? I’ll definitely be revisiting your blog!
Carrie.
Healthy and happy come first.. then all the other stuff and way down at the bottom of the barrel (Hopefully leaking out into a storm drain) are all these idiots who can’t let a distinguished woman become older with respect and dignity. I think you look gorgeous and you always will because it’s more than that 20 something body that makes you beautiful. It’s your mind, your wit, your spirit, your elegance. Those things are you more than a than a number on a scale or a tape measure. The people who can’t see that have never really seen who you are.
-Titania
Let them rant and rave all they will, it’s the person you are on the inside! So many people just can’t get past the idea that even people of fame do grow older and change indeed comes with it. Go with God
why the hell would anyone be giving a rats behind abt your weight !!!!!!!!!!!!! long may u reign
Carrie,
I saw your show this afternoon and no only were you fabulous but you were gracious enough to sign some autographs after the show I really felt a deep connection as I have lost someone special to me to mental illness You were so real…so smart…so vulnerable. I envy your courage. I read Wishful Drinking last year in two days! I laughed…I cried…and I did it all over again today.
Thank you for sharing your stories with us!
JLS
I’m afraid that our society just isn’t ready to embrace class, heart, honesty, a sense of humour, and the fact that over the years you inspired so many people to work hard and get what they want. Your writing inspired me to pick up my pen and I’m closer to my dreams because of your talent. Don’t let the turkeys get you down as my father used to say. You continue to inspire me and I hope to be able to see your show someday. All the best.
I say fuck the weight. At 59 and nuerous foot problems I’ve just said………..IF I die tonight, let it be with chocolate on my breath. Your meds are far more important then anything # a scale could reveal. You live in a very visual judgemental world and it’s really too bad. I’ve discovered that weight is a number but assholes feel they have to point it out to you and behind your back. As long as you can still fit in an airline seat, I say…………be OK with it. Love you! Anne Allen
Remember Carrie – You are better than the REAL THING……………….
To avoid the mob mentality taking over, we’ll call it figurative monkey feces and whenever one of them crosses you imagine all of us hurling forth like an Ancient Roman ballista in your honor to cover your enemy in dung and fruit…mostly dung.
Always,
puff
Nice try, but i don’t feel particularly sorry for you, i can match every last droplet of rancid anxiety that you have; only i don’t have a) a successful career as a celebrated wit forged entirely from the excruciating crucible of my struggle thereby recycling usefulness from my pain and b) i don’t have 242 people writing beneath my streaming cry of agony telling me how great i really am and how i am infact the dog’s most resplendent bollocks. So, i don’t really have it in me to dispatch obsequiously in your direction with well intended bum-drizzles about your dimples and such. I couldn’t care less what you look like, i really only care about what you say.
I am eternally grateful for your writing, for your smart, rich thoughts. I just read your blog today after another hideous few days of my own mental mutilation (my execrable feeding frenzy of self destruction, flagilation, desicration and several other ations), and it feels just magnificent to know a) i’m not alone and b) i have a spokesperson witty and mighty enough to embolden my spirit. Me and my dreadful fucking discomfort, we have our very own poet laureate.
I’m not bipolar, i don’t even have that excuse, my terrible body dysmorphia is actually the product of my own rational mind. That’s depressing.
e from england
x
ps i think your absolutely lovely, keep going…
Carrie, I’m not so naive as to believe anyone cares what I think, I know as a po-dunk mom in Kentucky, I’m pretty much on ignore for most people. I’m ok with that, because as my family says I pretty much talk because I like the sound of my own voice…
I do workshops to get women into the kitchen and get them out of the drive-thru. I start out by telling them the honost truth and that is, yes there isn’t anyone in my home who couldn’t afford to lost 20 lbs. But at the end of the day, I know every second where my 3 teenage boys are; my husband is loyal and there isn’t a doubt in my mind I am the only woman for him..
So my point is, I measure health differently that mainstream America; am I out exercising every morning and cooking with no butter? No, absolutely not. But am I waiting at the dining room table every day with a cup of hot chocolate (damn good hot chocolate made from scratch, fuck the powder and water shit) for my sons to talk in the door and tell me about their day? Abso-fucking-lutely. Do I wake up every morning with the man I was meant to be with in this life? Hell yea. So I figure even if I go a year or two early (because let me be quite frank – my grandmother ate bacon every morning and died in my mom’s arms at close to 80 years of age) I’m still healthier happiness wise than most people my age. So Carrie, as I look at things, you are amazing – and if that comes with a few extra pounds, who gives a shit? I’d choose to hang out with you because you are worthy to be hung out with – and the fact you were in Star Wars would gain me some extra points in the cool mom catagory because my sons just informed me they have every Star Wars movie – who knew?
You are great – remember that.
Carrie, as far as I’m concerned, any fucker who finds you anything less than beautiful can sit and spin. You are an amazing person inside and out, all the more so for your blunt and brutal honesty about REAL life, instead of that glam hollywood frippery. BE YOU, GIRL, because you’re amazing.
Carrie, Caught your show at yesterday’s Sunday matinee and was so taken by the gobs of genuine warmth and real compassion in your voice and presence. On the way home I asked my wife, “So what’dya think?” She said, “I held back tears the whole time.” I was like, “Whaaa? Me, too!” …I don’t want to make this blog entry a tome, but it was so wonderfrul to hear about Debbie Reynolds, too. When you described her as “a good person” I was like, Yeah, that’s what I always got from snapshots, TV interviews, and movies. Thanks so much for bringing a little sunshine in our wet and rainy Manhattan afternoon. (Remember? It was freeeezing, too!)
PS Why are we still talking about peoples’ weight?
Carrie…it’s like paddling against the current. These waify, anorexic dames in Hollywood are setting the standard for body image…not just for other women in Hollywood…but ALL of us. But for someone like yourself…it’s even worse, cause you’re in the public eye. Ask yourself, were you any happier when you were waify 105 lbs at 19? You know what would be great…if you could retain the experience & seasoning of the 53 year old mind/soul & have the waify 105 lb bod, right? I think that sometimes when I look at old pics of myself in younger years. But happiness & self confidence/self esteem resides inside. I’ve seen plenty of those skinny chicks struttin’ themselves around, but are really lonely & insecure. On the flip side, I’ve seen some full figured ladies…struttin’ around with chin up high….feelin’ good about themselves & their lives. Really, women take themselves as prisoners in their own bodies. When it’s all said & done, your legacy won’t be the size of your ass…but how you lived your life, how you loved & shared. You’re a tremendously respected/gifted person…embrace your inner beauty!!! Hope you come to Hartford again…would love to see your performance. Peace & Love.
Ms. Fisher,
You are a fantastic talent with so much voice and spirit to share. Thank you for sharing your life experiences, wisdom, and humor. All the critics don’t have half the talent and intelligence you were blessed with.
Hugs of support,
Grace
You’ve probably tried it, but just in case you have not, this really works for me……food combining. When you eat a protein, eat it only with vegetables. Similarly, when you eat a carb, eat only with veg. This is a macrobiotic way of eating, and although I am not macrobiotic, this works for me every time. And, it works quickly. And, I’m 54. I so hate when I see 30 somethings showing how the, “diet”, “moisturizer”, “Teeth whitener,” etc, has either helped them shed the pounds, or minimized their wrinkles, or tightened their “sagging” skin. Give me a fuckin’ break, THEY STILL HAVE ESTROGEN!
(But I digress….)
Carrie, as a lifelong admirer of plus sized ladies, it always saddens me when I hear women think they are in some way ugly or unattractive because of their size. The fact is, there are many men out here who think you and other plus sized beauties look great, but the media suppresses our voices. There is way too much money to be made by the weight loss industry and no money can be made on self-acceptance.
Size acceptance is something I’ve been involved in for over 25 years and the women who come to it are usually at a point where they have yo-yoed up and down the scale for decades (thus wrecking their metabolisms and ending up bigger as a result), and have come to realize that they will never be size 0. There is a genuine freedom in learning to love yourself and it helps if you realize that there are people out there who are not part of this weight obsessed culture.
Health At Every Size is a movement that has been around since the 1980s and the book by that name, written recently by Linda Bacon is a must read. I also recommend the DVD “Fat Head” which is a funny and VERY enlightening documentary on the myths versus the realities of weight issues. Both of those things have helped changed people’s lives.
I might be the only person in American who is bold enough and secure enough to admit that I looked at you in the slave costume and thought, “she’d look great if she was a little more voluptuous”. My point is, not everyone thinks beauty is confined to sizes 0 – 4 and not everyone thinks beauty is confined to ages 18 – 25 either.
You are a strong, gorgeous and dynamic woman who has done so much to get acceptance out there for bi-polar disorder, substance abuse (to be seen as an illness and help erase some of the stigma), and the general struggles that people with mental illness have. As you can see by all the positive comments on this page, most people don’t care what you weigh and some even think you look great! I wish I could loan you my eyes when you look at yourself, so instead of feeling disgusted or upset, you can see the beauty that I do. I hope someday you can see it for yourself.
You are beautiful, no matter how much you weigh. I understand about mood enhancers. When I tried them, I got rounder and rounder. I, like you, don’t eat much either. Part of this has to do with thyroid… but, seriously, at 52, which I am, what can I expect? Even with exercising twice daily, I am still over my desired weight by 50 pounds… sometimes more at Christmas time.
I hope your show is going well.
Happy birthday, Carrie!
Happy Birthday Carrie!!!
You and I were born on the same day, same year! I”m a psychiatric nurse and know first hand what can happen when one is noncompliant with meds.
Fuck the media. Your family, friends and fans are all that really matter.
As far as turning 53 today, as I see it, it’s the youngest we’ll be. Everyone has there turn to be a baby, a teenager, ect.. I’ts our turn to be 53 starting today.
Be kind to yourself,
Ani
Happy Birthday! Oh, Carrie. That you can look at life with humor and passion and still be brought down by the negative bullshit others fling makes you human. But you are an extraordinary human being, and one I’ll always view as inspirational. Fuck the naysayers!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY PRINCESS!
WE LOVE YOU!
It’s October 21st.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CARRIE FISHER!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you have a great day. And I hope the upcoming year is your best yet. May your hardships quickly turn into blessings, and may you always find yourself surrounded by those that love you.
xoxo,
Ericka
Carrie, it angers me so much that you’ve had to endure this phony immature nit-picking totally false and uncalled for media slander gossip from jealous people. Because they have no personality of their own, they gotta find something stupid to make up to gossip about for $$$ or fame or whatever. DON’T LISTEN TO THEM OR PAY ANY ATTENTION WHATSOEVER. Continue to take good care of you. You’ve gained wisdom in your 53 years as to how to take good care of yourself and it didn’t come from internet slander, so don’t let anyone take that wisdom away from you or make you feel bad about yourself in any way. You’ve come a long way and are 10,000 times more beautiful than the creeps who make a living off making stuff up about people that aren’t true… and Have a Happy Birthday Sweetie!
You have many many fans who LOVE YOU just as you are and you look FABULOUS. We wouldn’t want you any other way than healthy.
happy birthday, beautiful! i am proud to say we share the same birthday, even though it’s 30 years apart. you are fierce! i hope you are celebrating today, because the day you were born, the world became AWESOME. love you!
Happy Birthday!
Hi Carrie,
Not sure if you will see this, and I hope you’re out doing something fabulous, but Happy Birthday!
Love you, love your shoes.
MB
I’m coming to visit you next week in Ca.
see you soon!
Everyone loves Carrie Fisher.
So, those who don’t, simply don’t exist.
Carrie, you’re awesome. Keep being you.
It’s hard enough to be who we are without a Greek chorus.
Carrie,
I’m watching “Celebrity Ghost Stories”. Your still hot. I would like to take you out if you ever get to Dallas.
Happy Birthday carrie big kiss
Saw your show last Sunday. It sparkled….(and bubbled)- though- It’s mainly the sparkling that I fondly remember trying to pick off of my head… Just kidding. You ROCKED!…I sat there “happily dazed”
Made my day , That matinee’
To make matters moist…This crazy guy I accompanied (who is usually so brutal about NY Theatre) laughed his (arse) off too. Arse?
The audience…Man…Way too Cool gig, Darlin’..
Peace
you’re a beautiful woman, both inside and out. no matter how much you weigh. do what’s right for you, not what’s right for others. sending you hugs n good thoughts because you certainly deserve them.
Just another fan throwing her support your way. Break a leg in NY…
Oh OH OH! Had to come over here and post this:
http://www.americablog.com/2009/10/ice-skating-bear-kills-russian-circus.html#comment-20905102
“Ice Skating Bear Kills Russian Circus Hand”
I haven’t been here in quite some time because I’ve taken a position writing for John Aravosis’ “Gay Americablog”
http://gay.americablog.com/
But this is a REAL story!!! I know… its sounds like a “FAR SIDE” cartoon but its real. Never EVER trust a bear on ice skates!
Oh, and Carrie, tell everyone to just ‘eff off!’ about the weight thing. We still LOVE ya! ALWAYS… -Tim Beauchamp “cowboyneok” XOXOXO
Carrie,
. Your an awesome person dont let anyone change that.
Who cares what people think.. its your body not theirs. Anyway live life to the fullest and keep on being yourself
Your biggest fan,
Hayley
“the day you were born the world became AWESOME!”
The Oct. 21 club rocks
Magari ce ne fossero, come te!
Sei bellissima per come sei (you are beautiful as you are)
Ciao! Baci!
Eat healthy food, take care your health and be happy
No matter your weight, you are a great woman.
Hi Carrie,
Although it may not be a “healthy” weight, you could weigh 500lbs., and I’d still think you were Awesome!! The last show I saw you on was Craig Ferguson……..HA! HA! HA! Carrie, you are freaking hilarious!! I think you’re GREAT!!
You’re Beautiful! Just needed to get that out of the way before I tell you how Iconic and fabulous you truly are. Beautiful woman, amazing career, and aging gracefully as all women should. You are an ICON, Carrie, never let anyone get under your skin. I’m currently the age you were when you filmed the famous Leia bikini scene, and lemme’ tell yah — It would take some work for me to look that gorgeous in that small metal ‘kini!
I LOVE YOU!!!!!!! I’m 52, 5′1″ and weigh 147. I NEVER had to watch my weight in my life! Didn’t know what exercise was. Then I quit smoking, turned 40 and got married and BAM! I’m fat. Whatever. In order for me to weigh 135 I have to exercise my ASS off and watch every frickin’ thing I put in my mouth. I’M TIRED. I’m premenopausal … I have no idea how these glamazons do it. They HAVE to be barfing after every meal, getting colonics, lipo … what an exhausting existence.
YOU ARE FABULOUS!!!!!
You know the people who can only see your ass can not see your art. Even caring what they think is so eighteen years ago.
Also: It’s a trap, don’t go. There’s enough love. Really.
Holy crap on a cracker… people will not quit will they? Why is the presence of fat so much more noteworthy than anything else? Ability? What’s that? Talent? Sheer fricking will power to do more than sit and bitch about others?
Carrie,
Saw you in NYC on Sat. I had the best time. You are a beautiful and sexy woman. Forget about the guy with the Lexus I think I can do better than that, and you won’t be sorry.
Just wanted to say thank you for the Charlie Rose interview. I’ve just been having an awful time of it lately, watching my bipolar wake from its long slumber and feeling really helpless, because it has been so long since i have tried to slay that beast. Yesterday was a manic day for me, which I haven’t had in years. It was scary and almost fun, and I found myself wanting to try and enjoy it, after weeks of nothing but hiding and sleeping. But watching you grounded me in the reality that my mind is not a toy, or a child to be indulged. I can’t be passive about it, I have to do everything I can to get back to my healthy self. Thanks for the reminder.
xo,
Ericka
Carrie,
Saw you on Charley Rose last night and I appreciate you candor about mental illness. Someday we will get out of the Dark Ages with our attitudes toward it.
I enjoyed you so much in movies. Enjoy yourself, there only so much you can do about weight, esp. when you are taking care of yourself. Isn’t it great to be in your 50’s, I love it!
Hi Carrie,
I just saw you on Charlie Rose and I love that you put it out there. I am an artist, designer, creator, single mom, survivor and the phoenix. I have had my fair share of breakdowns, and the time I spent in the hospitals ” mental health floor” is part of who I am . I don’t hide it and tell people about it openly, and have some great funny stories, that I use to tell people about the experience. having a breakdown is good for the soul! You are a very funny lady
Just wanted to say you rocked on Jimmy Kimmel and looked FABULOUS!! It’s all about the atittude and you’ve got it!
Hi Carrie,
Watching you on Jimmy’s show brings back some memories and of course you were young but I was a stagehand
at the D,I,. worked you mom’s show. She is a sweet lady. Movies after the show and on weekends loved and miss thoe BBQ’s. Early 1970’s A few times went drinking with your Uncle Bill, You’re mom wasn’t to happy with that . Thought it would be nice to say hi even if you don’t know me . Glad to see you are hanging in there
dave
You’ll always be a princess.
Dear Carrie,
Seriously girl you need to chill about the weight thing. I saw your show last night. You rocked it. You’re funny and interesting and raw. Sadly I got the cheap seats so I think you looked good but frankly all I saw was black, red and glitter. You have a daughter. You have oodles of friends (I assume). You are on FUCKING Broadway. You have money. You have your parents. You have some weight on ya. Whatever. It’s not like you’re bed bound. Anyway, I guess it would get to me too if I was in the public eye but I’m not so I can happily be robust.
Rock out with your carrot cake out is what I say (in moderation.) If you want a laugh check out my blog: http://www.ieatmykidzsnacks.com/
Carrie, dear,
Saw your show on Tuesday, and I can’t stop giggling darkly– except for when I fling a new (for me) Carrie-ism at someone. I’ve already used “things were going downhill faster than we could lower our expectations” several times, always, of course, crediting you.
There’s so much wisdom in your humor. I loved “celebrity is just obscurity waiting to happen” — the idea can be endlessly extrapolated. A hot Hollywood sex kitten is just a crone waiting to happen; life is just death waiting to happen. The message here should be for everyone to a) get on with living and b) stop worrying about whether you could fit into Leia’s metal bikini. When you were (un)clad in that costume during the film, weren’t you chained to Jabba? There’s a metaphor there somewhere.
I’m 49, smart, successful…yet I still am not quite sure how to “be” in the world if I don’t look the way I did 30 years ago. I can’t imagine having my 25-year-old body seared into the consciousness of billions of people, with some of them still expecting me to be frozen in time, looks-wise. (You can bet that none of those critics are perimenopausal women. If one is, she should be killed.) Unlike other actresses, however, you have a life beyond your looks; your bikini days may be over (and isn’t it a relief in a way?) but you have the brains and talent to engage with the world as a writer. Blessedly, one doesn’t need killer abs for a life of the mind.
Thanks for the wonderful show. Everyone I know is getting a copy of your book for Christmas this year; my family and friends share many of the, uh, challenges you’ve faced. None of us has yet to wake up next to a dead, gay, Republican lobbyist, however, but then…the weekend is just beginning.
Beth
Carrie-
I don’t have time to read a lot of what is written on your blog, but I do feel your pain.
We are very close in age, and it has really been these last coule of years where I realize that I no longer get the attention I once did. I am middle-aged, and as much as those cute 20- and 30-something were still giving me looks a few years back, it is over now. I do mourn that as I will never have it again.
But there are things you can learn from this. I really didn’t appreciate being young and attractive, it is hard to imagine yourself any other way at the time. The things I would find to not like about my physical self now seem comical! All I can do now is realize that time is fleeting.. Although there are times when I feel like I’m totally losing not just my looks but my mind too, there are days when it works very well. Goddamn it, I’m gonna celebrate what I have left. I’m going to take risks. I’m going to fall flat on my face and not even think about it for more than a couple of days. And I think I’ve learned to put a lot of failures behind me. It is self discipline and wisdom that can keep you looking at today and tomorrow and not looking back with regret or longing.
Thank God I am not a celebrity because the temptation to look at comments would be strong. And I would find the hateful mean comments devastating. But Carrie, these negative comments are there about everyone. I remember reading these comments about John Kennedy Jr’s new wife and how all these people though she was so ugly! Celebrities are fun to knock down – it makes people feel less miserable about their own problems. It’s a bit of payback for looking so perfect on the movie screen and magazines. For me, it is nice to know that stars my age are battling the same issues that I am.
All I have to say now really are platitudes. But maybe if we can try not be be too sneering of them, we can see that they are still around because there is truth in them. Every day is a new day. Life is what you make of it. Choose wisely. Forgive yourself, forgive others. Spend as much time as possible doing what brings you pleasure for real.
carrie, you are gorgeous. fuck’em. we all love you, read your books voraciously, and attend your shows as much as our wallets allow. you are hilarious, inspirational (even though i loathe that word), and absolutely needed by your fans. my wee-est daughter was just “you” as leia for halloween. she’s 7mo but has seen your movies, most of them, already.
don’t stress, just keep on being you. because we love you.
Latecomer to the website/blog/twitterverse (no, I am not following you or anyone else on Twitter)
Just wanted to say this: Thank you for being there for almost all of my life. I know I don’t know you from adam, but you’ve always been a real help to me. For instance, I grew up short and roundfaced, loudmouthed and spunky in the 70s when everybody I knew was tall, blonde and discreet. Leia (though I completely understand your ambivalence towards the character) was the ONLY round-cheeked short dark-haired spitfire out there.
Flash forward to Postcards…I don’t talk about my personal struggles publicly, but I thank you for doing so. Always good to know one isn’t alone.
And now you’re fat, or so you say. Thank goodness! I’m about 10 years behind you, but by the time I’m the age you are now, I will probably look the same as you – though I have a double chin right now (which I HATE) that’s well beyond any of the womanly curves you’ve developed. For goodness sakes, we Americans need to take a breath and get over this idea that we’re “supposed” to look a certain way, as though a few extra pounds makes us irrelevant, invisible, or somehow second-class citizens! Crimeny! If I still look like you do when our ages match up, I’ll be grateful.
Thank you for being “fat.” Take care.
Thanks for sharing your Bipolar story, you have saved my life.
Hi. I’m not sure if this is possible, but I have a request. Just a few minutes ago I checked to see if there was a new blog post. Since there wasn’t I decided to read some of the comments. I noticed that I left a terribly embarassing comment last weekend while I was… drunk. I don’t remember doing it, but I know it’s me because I recognize that I was talking about a movie my sister’s and I were watching at the time. I mean how many other 18 year old girls named “Shelbi Hayes” were drunk last Friday night, watching “The Clown At Midnight,” while leaving a comment on Carrie Fisher’s blog talking about all sorts of stupid stuff (the only intelligent thing I said was that I should read your book again). I’m completely mortified and disgusted (especially since I don’t think I spelled one fucking thing correctly…). I hope that comment can be removed; it isn’t the type of impression I want to leave on anyone who reads the things on this blog. I’m normally not that much of a fucktard, but I was really really high up on that cloud of white (that’s not a euphemism for cocaine, whenever I have these stupid “up” periods, I call it “floating on a cloud of white”) and needed to find a way to escape. So my solution was in a bottle of Captain Morgan… I guess medication can come in various forms…
I really hope that stupid comment can be deleted forever. I’m so ashamed of myself right now… ugh.
I guess I should say something about Carrie Fisher now, since this is her blog.
Carrie, you are amazing. I fucking LOVE you. You crack me up. Thanks for the smiles…
♥ Shelbi
i guess it doesn’t matter that most of us (and probably most humans) look at you and see a very attractive woman…. if you don’t see it, then you don’t see it.
but look longer, look closer.
forget the past. look at yourself without thinking about what you USED to look like.
i’ve seen in you person (well passed you) and you looked cute to me. in fact, THAT is what caught my eye, i noticed you NOT because i thought, “there’s carrie fisher” i noticed an attractive woman and THEN recognized you as carrie fisher.
and i’m a straight 43 year old woman.
you just have “it”, fisher… whatever the hell it is, you have it.
i have it too.
takes one to notice one.
Piss on ‘em! Do what you want to do, and to hell with fucktards. People need to mind their own goddamn business!
What a pathetic creature you have become (saw you on Jimmy Fallon)….mocking the Bush White House as classless people….you are the epitomy of no class. Age is a progression of adventures, I am 58, and my husband and I just finished kayaking a river in Jamaica because our job is to experience this life not become cynical about it. Those of you in the entertainment (if that is even a word that describes what you do) industry who make a living off of satirizing your bad choices, desperate life circumstances, and the very unhealthy world of obesity only give off the air of sadness. No excursion through life is perfect, but to consistently make a mockery of your situation is nothing short of ridiculous AND no class. You are perverse in your life situation, and I feel nothing but sorrow for you, and the other pathetic creatures that relate to you….if you’re ready to die at what I consider a young age with so much to live for…children, grandchildren, family, friends, and only 3 more years with Obama, then keep eating.
Sue….you are truly pathetic…..
Carrie darling….join Weight Watchers! I did it (and lost the weight) and so can you!
In the mean time….you are terrific the way you are!
you know, I just listened to the radio interview, and when you mentioned the Star Wars book with you on the cover, it reminded me of another SW book that had you on the cover, only the artist used a photo of you from The Blues Brothers. I think that’s when the insanity of the whole likeness thing hit me. I can’t believe you guys don’t at least get a copy of whatever they do! “Heads up! Your face is now on toilet paper, USB Flash Drives, and sneakers!” At least the flash drives are more of a cartoon likeness. But when you plug it in, it talks in your voice. (Yes, I own one, and had an embarrassing moment in a Beverly Hills Starbucks with it that I’d rather not go into)
xo,
Ericka
Carrie!
You are beautiful and wonderful! Fuck them all and have a sandwich!
Sue – you are a mean and nasty person who clearly looks for opportunities to hurt other people in order to make yourself feel superior. The truth is, none of our journeys through this world mirror each other, and yet they all do. That is the magic of life. To insist that your path is correct and Carrie’s is not – is at best, delusional, and at worst, reflective of a truly polluted soul. You have my condolences that you carry this hatred in your spirit. It must be an awful way to live.
Doll!
I am 50 – every morning I get up at 5:30 and walk a minimum of 3.5 miles – often up to six – and in one to two (for 6+) hours.
I eat like a Nazi nutritionist AND I still weigh 170lbs at 5′6″ – getting older sux rocks.
Love you to bits – rock on.
ROCK ON, SISTER!!!
Here’s what I think, the media can climb on top of a poll and slowly rotate it up their anus! If I hear one more negative comment about a celebrity or a non-celebrity I may boycott television altogether. Carrie, let’s face it. You fucking rock. And more than that, it takes a strong character to get up and share your life the way you do. You put it all out there and i appreciate every bit of it. And in your fifties you still look fantastic. So what if you’ve put on a little weight. I think it would be abnormal not too.
As a person in her 20s and living in Los Angeles, we are the most abnormal humans ever. Those of us that actually are human… the rest confuse me. We eat all this shit, drank our little brains out, and guess what…we’ll get ours eventually. So, for the tardo that picked at you and tried to compare you to what you were in your 20s is simply unrealistic and tacky. I can only hope that I will look and be as amazing as you are when I grow up a little more.
That being said, keep being your superb self. I absolutely LOVE “Wishful Drinking” and look forward to the day you bring it back over to the Westside so I can finally see it live. It has entertained me through many LONG hours sitting in traffic.
Be well!
Don’t worry about it, there are so many people who think you are awesome! I think you look great.
I really enjoyed seeing you on Fallon the other night. You cracked me up. I also love how you pull your legs up into the chair when you are in interviews. It is so cute and cozy looking!
We’re ignoring Sue
So, when are you going to write another blog entry? No pressure… we just love you and love to hear from you.
Hope you had a wonderful Halloween – and I hope you had a chance to go outside and see the full moon. It was beautiful. I even saw it this morning as I was driving to work.
Take care. (And remember,.. we appreciate you! And we’re the only ones who matter.
You know… I have a youtube channel that I put a lot of time and energy into. And if someone were to post a negative comment on there, I would have no qualms about deleting it. It’s my damn channel, I get to decide what goes on it.
This is your damn blog.
I’m just saying…
Ah, the weight thing. I’ve got ya beat by an inch, Carrie. I’m 5 feet tall and 41. I can stand by food and osmosis sets in and it puts on the pounds. I don’t even have to eat it. I used to care about what people thought, but it took a lot of therapy and time to finally figure out that beauty comes from within. I’ve struggled with my weight all my life. But I’ve also seen the thinnest, most beautiful women make themselves ugly by attitude alone.
But you–Carrie, you are a beautiful woman, inside, outside, you have God-given talent, you have a brain that actually works (unlike me), you’re a wonderful actress and writer, that is a gift. I saw you on Celebrity Ghost Stories recently, and my first thought was “She is still so beautiful!” I’ve been a fan of yours since I was about 9, wanted to look like you then, and I still want to look like you. You’re timeless. I don’t know you, but by the way you talked about your friend, and I am so very sorry about your loss, you seem to have a good heart, and that makes you even more beautiful. You radiate from the inside out, and you are truly a princess. From a lowly southern fan: I know I sound like a Christina Aguilera song, but it rings true. You are beautiful, no matter what they say.
Starlet Wars
it’s no fun playing the helpless princess on screen
the damsel in distress with the weird hairdo
no fun being the real life daughter of Debbie and Eddie either
always on the edge
or in rehab
wishful drinking
a near overdose
sending postcards to myself
there are no heroes
no sensitive Luke Skywalker troubled by his father issues
no rugged Han Solo to take charge
it’s mostly grunting Chewbaccas out there
I can’t perpetuate the fairy tale
this no happy ending, ladies
I cruise the intergalactic empire alone
-Deborah Hauser
-Debo
Dear Carrie,
I just checked out this pic of you and your stunt double,
http://craphound.com/images/202d81c2987a31b0ba9f557da2eae0ec.jpg
and I’m sorry I can’t continue typing this comment now—I’ll be up in my bunk.
You’re fantastic, and you look great – and it wouldnt matter if you did gain or lose weight, your an individual and you’re unique and if someone doesnt like you then they are the ones with the problem. Dont let them get to you – keep doing what you do and being who you are – some people will like you some wont…. vent your anger at the ones who dont
… stay great 
xx
Carrie: your writing style is hilarious. it’s really fun to read you.
Saw your show last night at Studio 54. LOVED it! Bravo, Carrie!
Carrie, Have you ever had your thyroid checked? A low thyroid makes it extremely hard to lose weight (well… before I was diagnosed hypothyroid I was more worried about the clumps of hair coming out of my head and feeling like I was loosing my mind than my weight… argghh!)
Sue, shut up. Who sh*t in your fruitloops?! Sheesh You make no sense. What does mocking a President (a great past time in this country, BTW) have to do with class? You obviously did read Carrie’s blog post, either, when you rant on weight. The Bush era sure took a toll on many true-believers IQ!
carrie,
you are fantabulous! I loved you on Charlie rose the other nite. You keep zinging em out
i’m medicated and I agree, people like me this way and so do I .
yes i take up a bit more room (my meds cause some weight gain) but hey I earned it. move over if you
can’t share my light (so to speak)
I am awed and inspired by everything you do . your acting is inspired!
your work in the play is blunt, open, and truly hilarious .. it just rings true
Don’t give 1 minute of your life up to someone who quips about weight.
We have bigger fish to fry here people **
some have to put others down in order to feel better about themselves.
we know better Doll
another big fan
j gibs
Dear Ms. Fisher,
I am a single gay dad who adopted 5 kids from DCFS,
1 has graduated from SFSU (his teachers raved about
your show in Berkley) 3 in college and one at the new
LA HS VAPA (Visual & Perf. Arts) too close to vapid.
I have returned to school studying Literary Criticism
and I have stretched my academia until it hurts to
understand possibly how and why we communicate.
My only creative outlet these days is an e-pal situation
with George Stephanopoulos after his show on Sundays.
He is such a nice guy and smart and intriguing like you.
My 15 year old needed a book for English class and I found
an Oprah thingy and he loved it (yes, he’s gay too). Then
I spotted Wishful Drinking, picked it up and laughed rudely
aloud in Chevalier’s bookstore on Larchmont. My favorite
bookseller, perhaps you could do a signing or two there.
I woke up at 6am on a Sunday and I finished the book by
8am just in time for This Week with Georgie. I told him how much
I loved your book and recommended it to his wife, Ali, who is
a comedienne like you. I shared about your alter ego, Greg,
and you rdalliance with Chris Dodd. My eyes, my eyes.
I USED to be a writer’s asst. for Larry Konner and Mark Rosenthal
(Mona’s Lisa’s Smile, and blah blah who cares… They went to your house
in 1994(?) and loved it…you had a gay gentleman living with AIDS in the basement,
colorfu furniture and a Toucan? You were smart. witty, funny and they
sensed a deep morale compass in you which they did not expect to find
because you reputation is to be irreverent towards society’s
scared cows.
I used to work at FOX down the hall from then President John Matoian,
who claimed to be Bryan Lourd’s best friend. Only Mr. Lourd’s hairdresser
really knows who is best friend is/was. You came to the network and looked
in my office and said “you look like you have some coke ( I gave you the stank eye)
and then you added “in the can”. I laughed, you smiled and then you looked at your feet wrapped
in euro cloggish slipperettes and followed them out of my office. My brush with
my favorite writer (Postcards from the Edge). It was our cult classic in my partner’s
and my home. We watched it when we were happy, we watched it when we were sad,
we watched it just to watch it. It became the glue between the Old Hollywood we watched
on TV and the New Hollywood we were working in. I loved your dialogue and he loved Ann
Roth’s Costumes (he got to work with Ann eventually in Under Seige and he still loves her).
We quote the lines often, and CCH Pounder is my neighbor and Natalia Nogulich is a
dear friend. My partner and I divorced after 16 years, couldn’t agree on parenting styles.
I have been on my own with the 5 kids for 9 years and stayed away from the Holy wood.
I read your book (too short like Eddie) and all my memories came back. I knew of several
people in the very small town I grew up in Illinois who had ECT one committed suicide in
his garage (he teased me horribly about being gay and I didn’t even know what it meant yet)
and another girl who had a great hubby, a farm, a great daughter and could not snap out of her
depression (15 years ago), she ECT’d and her quality of life is amazing and she is very happy
and a better mom, too. She left the hubby. sold the farm and moved to Arizona.
Your book spoke to me on so many levels. I am 48 now and you have aged with so much
insight and wisdom and humorous reflections for my life too. A former friend whom I helped
into Hollywood dropped me as soon as he landed the A job used to be your asst. while you
were doing Frankenstein! the musical in London if that story is true. He shared how impressed
he was of your high awareness between the “phenomena” of Hollywood and the Hollywood self at
such a young age.
I have not laughed out loud so uproariously especially at 6am all by myself cuddled up on
the living room couch with WD. Both of my parents were Irish alcoholics and I can see you have
the dark Irish humor in your DNA. I had written a one hour show about therapist’s lives
and how they were screwed up but were able to help end the mental sufferings of others.
It was called “Liberty Hill” ( I was conceived in Cincinnati and Liberty Hill is the name
of the gay ghetto there, so I am told) and Conchata Farrell did the reading at Paramount
for me and she was overwhelmed how accurate my definitions of mental illnesses were in the script.
. My writing is dark humor with strong female minds and it is scares the suits in
Hollywood. Interestingly, my father’s middle name is Francis (with an i) too and my
middle name is Ignatius after the nun who found my father drunk in an alley in Cincinnati
(we lived in Chicago at the time) and she declared Alcoholism as medical illness and set
up the first medical treatment centers for Bill W. My father’s sponsor was my mother’s
physician, Dr. James West, who started up the Betty Ford Center for the First Lady.
Would you like to read the script? I am not saying anything is going to happen with it
but I think you might consider starring and writing in it, some day. I’ll tell you all of Bryan
Lourd’s secrets he told Johnny Matoian….just kidding, you know the big one so the
other pale to the g factor. Glad to read he is a good dad!
I love the picture of you and your daughter standing outside. True love can be captured
on film. Truth is Beauty and Beauty is Truth (Keats)
As Bruce Vilanche says, be well!
Gavin
Thanks for all of it, Carrie.
The creative, funny, funny writing, the acting, and the honesty.
Until 3 1/2 years ago I was very large. I had gastric bypass surgery and lost over 200 pounds. I feel better, but do I look better?
I like looking at pictures of myself more than I used to. Is smaller better? I have more energy and am more active. I am in less daily physical pain. THAT IS BETTER. The rest is perceptions, mine and others.
Keep your wit and wits about you as much as you can. I know the things I say to myself are harder to hear than what others say. It sounds like you are similar. It’s tough, but part of being human.
Peace
David
Hi, Carrie,
I just want to encourage you. A little while back, I was complaining to a friend about the things I did not like about my appearance. She responded with her slant on the issue by saying she thinks of those things we don’t like about ourselves as being the Maker’s marks on us, His works of art; like a potter’s fingerprints on a ceramic vase. I loved this way of thinking about it! I know that we are all beautiful in our uniqueness to the Master Artist who created each one of us personally.
And by the way, I watched “Postcards” the other day with your audio commentary and enjoyed it a lot. You inspire me to become a better writer. Keep your beautiful chin up, girl! (wink and hug)
Sincerely,
Jade
(ceylonjade.blogspot.com)
I especially love how no matter how publicly vulnerable or even self deprecating we make ourselves there are forever people who gawk and
point out
“You missed a spot!”
you know as well as anybody if you lost 5 lbs the world would rant about an eating disorder and whatever else get’s their knickers in a knot.
I was in New York recently but only for two days. Our hotel room had a lovely view of construction and the marquee outside the theater where your show was playing. Sadly we were only there for two days and didn’t have time to come see it. I was terribly disappointed but happy to hear only superb things about it.
Keep doin’ what you’re doin’ lady.
you just finished up with joy behar and were great!
“There’s no room for demons when you’re self possessed”
(appreciative whistle)
Carrie,
Everybody is commenting about weight, I am writing about your bipolar treatments you talked about on the Joy Behar Show. I hope you will see this e mail and can share this info. would those shock treatments work for schizophrenia? My son is so heavily medicated, I would like to know more about where I could go for those treatments, and if you could recommend any doctors, etc.
Ellen
Ok, so this is what, my 90th comment on this post? Whatever it is, it’s embarrassing.
Anyway, I had a shitstorm of a day. And considering my days have been full o crap lately, that’s saying something. I actually came home from work in tears, which is shameful. I should feel very lucky to even have a paycheck in today’s world. But I did, and before I started my nightly job search, I watched you on CNN, and I just wanted to say thank you. It’s not that I haven’t heard your words before, it’s that I needed to hear them today, at that moment. I need to be grateful for everything, even my unhappiness, because that’s how I know I deserve and want better for myself. So tomorrow, I will try and find the funny in my predicament, rather than let it eat away at me. I don’t know, I just wanted you to know that some 10 minute interview you did really, really made an impact on my day.
And on a positive note, I think I drooled on myself over your shoes. Are they sparkly all over? Wait, don’t tell me. I might die from jealousy.
xo,
Ericka
“Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.”
-Albert Camus
“You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink.”
Chesterton
Dear Carrie,
You are a hoot…and very refreshing! I too have bipolar disorder 2, but was only diagnosed in the past 3 years…I love lithium, but I miss my highs. I also have Fibromyalgia, and graves diseas!!Fun! I’m a 50 yr. old single mother and my 12 yr old may have bipolar of adhd….we’re not sure yet. Thanks for putting it out there…You’re very courageous and you are helping the rest of the world not be so scared of us!
God Bless You
Ms. Fisher,
FUCK them. I’ve seen you on talk shows recently and thought you look AMAZING! As a recovering addict myself I know how hard it can be to be yourself in front of large crowds. FUCK THEM. I’ve looked up to you for years for your honesty and strength through all the things you (and I) have gone through in life. Often I’ve looked to your humor mixed with brutal honesty in times of weakness and adore you inside and out.
Have I said “FUCK THEM” yet?
I am so grateful for you and respect you to no end.
With love and respect,
Kat Walsh
Boston, MA
hello!!
3hrs till i leave to go to the airport to fly to NY!! and i dont get in till 6.30pm tomorrow…how much does that suck? anyway coming to the show on sunday, which is going to be cool…. hope all shows have been going well so far and you havent had the crap weather we’ve had here making people stay inside and not come to shows even after they booked tickets…!!
This is why googling yourself is no fun. There are so many fuckheads in the world, and I know they can be hard to block out, but remember that their opinion is nothing. Keep your chin, up you’re fantastic.
….maybe it’s guilt & th accumulation of bad karma you’ve collected ~ most specifically, signing (in blood) that smear campaign against me to help those satanic gangsters steal th 4 Billion dollar inheritance that Paul Getty left to me in his Will. did you really need th Million you got for signing so badly as to permanently stain your soul by participating in something so sleazey (& illegal)?! Dina informed everyone how bogus/wrong/unfair it all was & 50 people returned th stolen money to me (she kept it!), but, not you or your mother. your crooked destiny awaits you & your fellow hypocrites . . .
Hooray, I’m #326! It’s a spot in life I’m familiar with.
Not sure if you’ll get this far down the list, but thought it was worth a shot. I’m not your run-of-the-mill, average, never-been-on-a-date “Star Wars” stalker; in fact, I’m a married father of four and writer who happens to be a huge fan of your non-acting career. I’m also the parent of a 12-year-old girl who is bipolar.
I’ve written periodically on the struggles we have with our child. Our latest effort is a children’s book to help siblings when their family is rocked and rolled on the bipolar swing. It’s a short read, but I think it has a place for families who face similar situations.
I know this is a one-in-a-million shot, but I wish there was some way to get the book to you to read and comment on. You’ve got my e-mail address and my blog address. I hope when you get a moment that you’ll take a look at the blog.
Depending on your tolerance for this sort of thing and perhaps convinced that I’m really am who I say I am, would you consider taking a look at the book? I guess you never know until you try…
Thanks … And come back to your blog soon!
Carrie,
I wonder if you will see this…hope so…cuz I think your lovely, and brave, hilariously funny, and have loads of wisdom.
i could bore you with how I too am neurologically challenged, as well as my son’s…at the end of the day they are brilliantly
talented musicians, with hearts of gold, but as Joy would say “so what… who cares!” Read your book Loved It and I love you Ms Carrie Fisher, you gave me hope and a lighter heart, about the whole darn mess called my life…so thank you…lovely lady…and by the way….I think you you look great….sending you a soft, mushy hug…and keep enjoying your your daughter….that’s what life ends up being worth living for…YES ?….of course, yes……………
Carrie
you rock! You are beautiful! Fuck the critics. Sleep well.
Hi Carrie, I’ve been away from your blog for a bit and am playing catch-up. Your so open and up front I appreciate you more and more everytime I read your blogs. I’m really sorry for you having to deal with people who focus on the outward instead of the inward…When I was graduating high school, my family had a little shin-dig. MY uncle read a scripture to me that I’ve always remembered and shared with people over the years. It’s from Proverbs 11:22 “like a ring of gold in the nose of a pig, is a beautiful woman who has no sense”…there may be a lot of hot 20 year old acrtresses, but how many of them have the sense to 30 years later still be tiedto hollywood and have a following of people who still admire them and care what they have to say. Stay strong girl and focus on the ones who love you…and from what you’ve said about your daughter- she’s worth any body changes she may have put you through.
Dear Carrie,
You are an Amazing person! I really enjoy your ability to look at yourself and have a good laugh once in a while. You have been an inspiration to me by being so brave and willing to allow every one to see you as you really are, not some plastic-mold copy that Hollywood trys to tell us is “real”. I have finally reached a point in my life where I am starting to be able to laugh at my own mishappings myself. I believe you are a beautiful person because of who you are and what you are trying to do. Thankyou for being you!
Carrie!
There is someone IMPERSONATING YOU on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?id=576872534&ref=search&sid=1261841615.796798269..1
Now, I really don’t have anything against “fan pages” but this person REALLY goes out of their way to pretend to be you (commenting on people’s posts, posting “thank you’s” for birthday wishes meant for you, telling Derek Lyons that “she” would love to come to London to visit, telling people to “fuck off” when they question “her” validity)!
I saw in a recent interview that you don’t use Facebook. When I questioned this imposter about that fact, they replied “it was a ruse to keep the weirdos away!”
I think you should post on your Twitter feed that you DON’T have a Facebook account, to officially discredit this person.
Much respect,
Bruce
film recommends: Andrei Rublev (Tarkovsky) & Ballast (Hammer)
what if the Hokey Pokey IS what it’s all about?
or: what if Row Row Row Your Boat is right about life?
Ms. Fisher,
You are a hero to me. I also have bipolar and you have become someone that represent that people like us can be successful. Thank you for coming public and painting a accurate picture of our illness.
Wuf_friend
Look up Alloy and Abramson. As grad students at U Penn, they did an experiment involving depressed and non-depressed people. The gist of it was this: subjects were given differing degrees of control over the lighting of a light. For some, their actions perfectly controlled the light going on or off. For others, their actions had absolutely no effect on the light; it went on whether or not they pushed the button…they were helpless.
The findings?
Non-depressed people thought they were totally in control, even when they weren’t. The depressed subjects ACCURATELY assessed when they were in control and when they were not. In other words, it was the non-depressed people who harbored illusions about the world, and the depressed people who saw things clearly.
Hmmmm.
Now that you are busy being a TWIT-er, I never see anything on the blog. More’s the pity. I’m not going to be a TWIT-er, so I guess I’ll just have to re-read your books if I want to stroll around your gray matter.
“It is easy to speak of the beauty of opium.”
-Marcel Proust
I remember going to see Heart in concert some years ago. I have always loved Ann and Nancy Wilson….they are two of the most amazing musicians in my opinion. Ann Wilson to me is probably one of the best vocalists in the history of rock music. So, when I saw them perform on this one specific night, they blew me away. To this day, it remains one of my all time favorite shows. It was after the show on the way home that I heard the Dj reviews. There was not one mention about the music that I remember hearing and all that was said was how fat Ann was. I was so pissed off. The Djs just riddled the poor lady with hateful comments. Why do people have to be this way so wrong and so cruel? That lady connected to thousands of people that night with the power of her voice and her weight was all that was talked about. Carrie, you have touched millions in your life in your own way (including me) so for those “few” I am sorry. We all have our insecurities, our weaknesses…I know I have mine. It is just sad how some people prey on those weaknesses. There are alot of people, who care greatly for you. There is still that young boy in me, who loved and admired Princess Leia, however, the man I am now sees you as the intelligent, strong and beautiful woman you are today. I guess I have always been attracted to strong women….so please stay strong. I know it is easy to say, but ignore the hate and hurtful. Do what makes you happy, follow your heart and know that you are loved. You are perfect just the way you are.
Brent
Hi Carrie –
I was in CT way back, same time as you (I sat at the girls-who-wouldn’t-eat-or-only-throw-up table during meals, hiding the butter in my pockets when the supervisor wasn’t looking). We talked a few times.
Anyway, I am no longer one of those girls. The Best Awful brought back some memories. Thank you for the book.
As far as the weight goes, I am sorry you have to endure comments. You are fantastic, and I wish you all the best. The people who comment are the people who have unresolved issues in themselves.
Jennifer
Don’t let the idiots get you down. You’re very talented and are accomplishing a lot
with your life.
That’s what counts.
Not concerned about your weight, I mean who am I to judge? Who isn’t overweight these days?
But I noticed a bit of a hand tremor during your Letterman appearance, have you had that checked out?
/Says the anonymous stranger on the Internet offering unsolicited medical advice.
psychopharmaceuticals didnt help me in the least, as far as my mood or moods were concerned, turned me from a pleasant quiet eccentric to a loud mouthed suicidal A-hole, but I dont have Bi-Polar, I have post traumatic stress, clinical depression, and anxiety disorder
I was medicated four and a half years, had to stop taking pharmaceuticals due to horrific adverse reactions, diabetes, cushings disease, heart/lung problems, really bad skin, and my skin used to be so beautiful, my weight doubled, yep doubled, I am still trying to get rid of the last forty medication pounds, and only have a little permanent damage from the plethora of side effects
Not sure if this post will get noticed as it’s one of about 350, and this may have been mentioned by others here, but I notice that Carrie’s post states that she eats barely anything. I’m aware of the effect on body-weight of certain medications, and am not in a position to advise on that. However, the human body is at its heart a machine evolved to survive in the wilderness. If a person’s diet is particularly light, then this can result in a surprisingly rapid metabolic decline – the body thinks that resources are scarce and attempts to ‘hold on’ to body fat in order to prevent starvation. Any number of vitamin supplements will not address this, but a normal ’sensible’ diet will.
If anyone within the admin’ for this site spots this post, please pass on the suggestion either to Carrie or someone close that, as odd as it sounds, she may need to eat a bit more if she wishes to slim down. There’s a whole load of crap out there in the food and diet (money-making) industry, but essentially fitness is all just about calories in and calories burned through daily activity. The body wants to be in a ‘metabolic state’ – if it’s got a steady supply, it’ll keep metabolising and will do so with increasing efficiency. Without, it’ll spend too much time in a ‘catabolic state’- doing nothing. Small and simple meals, 3 – 5 a day instead of ‘big’ main meals, no big deals on calorie-counting just eat relatively healthily and moderately and it might hopefully help things a fair bit.
Apologies if this had already been covered, or Carrie’s already got it sorted and I’m just waffling
)
Look Carrie: I have no idea what it’s like to be in your position – the position being in the public eye so often. I can tell you to tell everyone to screw off, but I know it’s not that simple. I got upset the other day when a family member jokingly told me I had a big ass, so I cannot imagine what it’s like to have hordes of jerks telling you something similar.
The best I can give you is that you are a funny, successful, lovely person. You can literally work your ass off and you know that everyone will find something else to poke at. It’s a lose/lose situation. I am sporting a host of my own physical issues from Diabetes to RA – and all of it sucks. I take tons of meds and they help in some ways and hurt in others. The problem does not lie within however; it lies in the hearts of the people out there who seem to feel they have a right to judge you.
Your job is to accept yourself. You must work. You must function. I know that all of the chatter cannot be ignored – but remember you really don’t need to explain yourself to anyone (unless it makes you feel better). I’ve been chubby ever since I hit the bit 3-0 and I don’t see it melting away any time soon. I too try to do my best – but you gotta live.
While I lick my wounds over the big ass comment directed at me – I say to you – have that f-ing piece of bread, fuel your body and excel at all you are doing. I’m sick of the naysayers and frankly you should tell them to get screwed. See, I said it anyway.
Take care and keep at it. Take your meds, missy – and enjoy your life.
Warmly,
Jen
Who cares about your weight! You’re goddamned hilarious. Keep it up lady – all of us in reality think you rule in 2009.
They will laughing to you Carrie!They will laughing to you Carrie!They will laughing to you Carrie!They will laughing to you Carrie!They will laughing to you Carrie!They will laughing to you Carrie!
Eve was weak-say it Carrie!Eve was weak-say it Carrie!Eve was weak-say it Carrie!Eve was weak-say it Carrie!
Eve was weak-say it Carrie!Eve was weak-say it Carrie!Eve was weak-say it Carrie!Eve was weak-say it Carrie!
Hell, last time I looked, my old body will never look as buff as it was in my youth. We age with grace and beauty. With added wisdom and added value. You are still beautiful and gracefull, easy on the eyes for this once young old man. Critics are just that, and not in our closest circles of friends and families for reasons we all know. Keep going strong and we will all show these naysayers that their words may dent, but will not puncture. You will still as always be in young boys hearts, old boys hearts, as the beauty from the stars.
Hi.
I’m bipolar II & put on 20lbs mostly because of Depakote. After 6yrs. of crappy shrinks, I found my recent one. I am not bipolar II and ADHD. It was the best thing I ever heard: I was put on Adderall (on top of Cymbalta, Li, lamicatal, seroquel, clonipin…that’s all I can think of at the moment–doesn’t do much for memory) and lost all 20lbs. Surprisingly, Adderall counteracted all the weight gain side effects of the Li and others, AND it changed my appetite. The thought of McDonalds, which I lived on, would make me queazy. But I don’t exercise so I’m waiting for it to come back. But it’s been…almost a year.
Saw your show over the weekend and LOVED it. I was blown away by how great you were. I hear you on the meds messing up the weight thing. I feel better than I ever have- but it cost me twenty pounds! And I’m guessing it isn’t coming off. I imagine what makes i t triple tough is we see you on TV which adds twenty pounds PLUS we are used to seeing women on tv that are completely unnaturally thin.
Carrie, No matter what you do and no matter what you say, there will always, always be those assholes who believe that people should look the way “they” want you to look. It’s a no-win situation. I’ve made myself crazy over the years trying to be accepted by others and it never got me anywhere. Made it hard to accept myself but that, I found, is really what counts. I am the only one I have to live with. I can be my own best friend. I know I’m lost within all the others here to admire you. My mom told me that she knew your mom a long time ago when she was going to Burbank High School. She told me that your mom wanted to be a gym teacher. But my mom and a few other girls encouraged your mom to enter a contest to win a sweater…and a screen test. Wow. That’s how she told it. Not sure if all the facts are true but it’s fun. I’m 55 now and have undergone the dreaded ‘middle age’ crisis. And I have had the mood swings and on meds and so on and so on. I’m currently on leave to try to change my way of thinking about things. It’s a long haul. Sure would love to chat with you but I understand that we exist in different circles. Take care of yourself, and thanks for just being you cause that’s okay.
Hi Carrie,
Personally I adore the entire package of YOU. Weight is just numbers. I don’t like math. What I do like is words.
Amazing, funny, charming, intelligent, beautiful, witty, creative = YOU.
Just saying.
XO
CM aka Linda
I think you’re wonderful! I’m sorry that people are such jerks. You are my hero!
Does Carrie ever read all these messages? And answer any of them? Because at my latest check, this is still Earth and not a Fishbowl. From ,being grounded.
This is actual advise (that you may never see?)- I just wanted to say that the reason you may not be able to lose any weight is that you are possibly not eating enough food. This is terribly common, especially here in America, where people think that cutting all callories is the best way to lose weight, when in fact if they were to add some complex carbs or extra protein to a meal (like breakfast) that they would lose a lot of extra weight faster, and healthfully. The truth of the matter is that most of us subsist on diets containing no more than 1000 calories, and we freak out when we total 1500 calories by the end of the day. We are supposed to eat around 2000-3000 calories a day to be healthy, and no one realizes that simply by adding extra food and giving the body the fuel it needs, it will be able to burn off excess fat stores.
I know that yesterday, I didn’t eat more than 700 calories. I did myself more harm by eating so little than if I would have eaten 2 big slices of pizza and a coke. Sometimes it is so hard to get nutrition into your body. This morning, I feel like garbage, because my body didn’t get proper fuel yesterday.
I imagine that, growing up in Hollywood, you probably have dealt with nutritionists and dietitians and trainers and all of that nonsense, and so you probably know this. However, I hope that one of your readers might see this and decide to go and research it for themselves. We all struggle with weight acceptance and the pressure to starve ourselves without realizing how harmful it is.
But anyways, dear, you are an amazing person who is beautiful no matter how much you weigh. You are funny as hell and you are a fantastic entertainer. That goes for anyone else reading this, too, you are beautiful no matter what the scale says!
I can’t imagine living the public life that you lead and the personal attacks that one in that life must endure. You are fabulous and I love your work!! Love, love, love your sense of humor. Back to Postcards from the Edge, and others, I am totally entertained and have understood little bits and pieces due to my round of postpartum depression.
I would love to see your show but I live across the country and have two little ones.
Ignore the naysayers!!!
Carrie, thank you for helping so many people in so many ways. You are wonderful in every way.
Carrie,
I feel your pain on the weight issue. I’m yet another bi-polar nutcase out there who is doing quite well on the meds, thankyouverymuch, but also hating the massive slab o’ blubber it has put on my ass. Personally, I’m having a lot of issue accepting it. I feel like a beached marine mammal. I am not a manatee, dammit! I don’t like getting waters in my ears. Give me my 19 year old hot bawd back. NOW. OTOH, 19 was a good year for manic drunk driving, multiple fun pills and really bad choices in sex partners. Maybe floating around in the water eating seaweed salad all day isn’t such a bad idea after all.
Enough about me, let’s talk about you and how you relate to me. Thanks for putting yourself out there and speaking up for those of us who aren’t quite right in the melon. I missed your show the last time you rolled through the San Francisco Bay Area. Please come back. I’ll make cookies.
-Beth
Two days younger than you (10/23/1956, honest), and can’t lose an ounce either. It’s genetics. We’re doomed.
just watched you on shrink wrap interview here in Perth Australia and so looked your biog up on the net because my son was asking about you.
Listen really I don’t give a flying …. how much you weigh I am just so excited that you are still alive to tell us your story and stories, which not only make us laugh at ourselves but also learn lessons we may not have recognised in our own lives.
thank you so much for having some self preservation and still being here to write,act (and yes you are not just a princess!) and just be you!
by the way I love the thing about piss and moan we call our mum pod sometimes profit of doom…
thanks again.
love Jayx
You are a successful writer and one of the few American comedians that makes me laugh. You’ve managed to do lot of fabulous things while dealing with things that aren’t so fabulous. I don’t know you but as an onlooker, let me reassure you that the fact you looked good in a metal bikini on the set of a scifi film really isn’t the pinnacle of your achievements. People who say otherwise tend to be bores anyway.